So I've decided that I'm bisexual.

I don't know if I'd even go that far. Just very, very openly sexual would perhaps be a more proper term. Girls turn me on just as much as guys. (I'm female..)

Anyway, terms aside, I don't really know how to come out to my friends. I'm sure this exact thread has been posted countless times... but I'm worried that my (chick) friends will get weirded out and not want to hang out with me without being nervous that I'm hitting on them or something. Which I'm not.

I know, I know. "If they can't accept it, then they must not have been very good friends" ... That makes sense in theory. But more than likely, it will happen.

I don't even know if I should actually come out.. that's been working kind of okay for me lately, but I feel like I'm being fake and hiding myself from the people I care most about.

So, if you could, relate your experiences with coming out, and any advice. That'd be pretty schweet.

 

Another thing, it's very popular to be "bisexual" where I live. It's ridiculous, twelve and thirteen year old girls saying "yeah, I'm bi, I love girls! uh... yeah, look, a girl! OH MY GOD she has a nice ass.. yeah. Bi. mhm, I'm so bisexual! Hey, did I mention I'm bisexual?"

Obnoxious. I know people are going to automatically assume that's what I'm doing. I find that rather annoying, being lumped in with all those imbeciles...

Mkay. I'm done.

 

well... heres the thing.

u may not realize it but u control this situation. confidence is such a powerful tool... how u aproach the situation can help determine their response to what u have to say.

if u are just flat out... im attracted to girls... if u dont make a big deal out of it, in a lot of cases either will they. if youre all like "omg i have something really important to tell u all..." and u make some sort of production about it... they will most likely respond accordingly.

i can tell u more about how i handled things if u think it would help u out at all... let me know

good luck!

 

In a way, bisexual women and lesbians are there to support and appreciate women in ways that men often don't. We can appreciate a girl's beauty in not only a supportive way, but a sexual way, yet we don't necessarily feel like our genitals will take control of our bodies and will force us to have sex. Most of us recognize women to women relationships as sacred and instantly it's as if some connection on a deeper level occurs, or was always there.
So, explain your worries to them. Tell them you don't want to hit on them and you won't.

If you can stay centered in your relationship with your girl-friends, appreciate them in your bisexual way, but not impose, communicate your emotional anxieties.. then you should be fine, and actually you may just find that a couple of them will tell you they're the same, and if they aren't the straight ones will be happy to have a girl that likes them in that way. Girls are easily flattered. The ones that leave and are 'weirded out' by it will be bisexual themselves or lesbians. It's your part to be okay with the fact that they haven't faced it yet. Be patient with them.. they've got some growing up to do, and our society is scary in that we are very unacceptive of specific things. So: be acceptive if they leave. Be okay with that and love them because they are just scared.

No girl is weirded out by another one who likes them, as long as the relationship is respectful.

 

I've recently started to 'come out' to a couple of people about being bisexual, I'm also female and I'm 17 years old. I haven't told my family but today I told one friend and she seemed fine with it although she re-enforced the point that it was cool, but she'd never do anything with a girl, so she was fine once I reassured her that I wasn't going to pounce on her or anything.
To be honest, I don't really feel the need to 'come out' to my family until I have to, so until I get a girlfriend I won't tell them. I don't feel like I'm hiding myself away or whatever because when I'm with my parents I never point out who I think is hot anyway.
I'd say the main thing is to be confident with who you are. You are who you are, you don't need to change and you must not change for anyone. They're like the key things! I know some people get kind of awkward with themselves because they like the same sex, but I didn't really have that, I think its very important to accept yourself and realise that there is NOTHING wrong, or dirty about it, no matter what some people will say (my cousion will refuse to talk to me for months when she finds out).
Feel free to contact me if you need any more advice!

 

tell them your a lesbian and when you grow up you want be a prison guard for a federal prison most of the time they well shut up and theyr parents well fear you.

 

Danke, guys, for your advice..

Peace, Love, Techno.

 

I think its cool you can admit to being bi. But high school is ruff enough and kids can be mean for no reason. I think your friends would be cool with it. Who knows one of em might even be goin throught the same thing!

 

I say lick away, matie!

 

you'd be surprised how understanding your true friends can be. I just came out to my closest friend, and she handeled in much better then I expected! Give them a bit of credit. I mean, you obviously think they're worthy of spending time w/ so they can't be all that bad, right?

 

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if you want to tell them then tell them
if they have some sort of ''problem'' with it then they aren't your real friends

 

I've read about it being cool to be bi-sexual in many areas. I don't understand that... what's so great about it? There's nothing wrong with being bi-sexual, but what's great enough about it to pretend you are when you really aren't?

I never thought very hard about how my friends would react to me telling them that I'm bi. I won't be telling them for a while anyway. I don't think they would immediatly think I am attracted to them or anything, but they would probably get paranoid that I was hitting on them or something. I would never do that as long as I knew they weren't ok with it.