Hi everybody, I'm hoping u can help me get my head in some sort of logical order. I'm in my first year at university, and I was away celebrating a mate's birthday a few weeks ago when I found myself really attracted to one of my mate's (female) friends. I've never experienced anything like it before, I have been brought up in a very sheltered, conservative community. Although I reckon my parents would be okay with me being gay, I think it would change alot of people's views towards me. The thing is, I'm now very confused with myself and I'm not sure whether I'm gay, straight, bi or what. It has been worrying me alot and I've been very stressed about it. Its been very difficult not being able to talk to any of my friends about it, although just this afternoon we were celebrating the end of our exams in the uni bar and I was a little drunk and told my best friend. She was really cool about it but I feel really self-concious that she thinks differently about me. I just wish that I knew for sure whether I was one way or the other. I think the only way to find out would be to go out on the gay scene where I live. My best friend said she would go with me, though she is straight and has a boyfriend. I have a boyfirend too and now I'm worried and dont know what to think. I just wish I knew for definite who I was. Any help or advice would be muchly appreciated. x x
hey!! first of all, i think alot of girls have all been attracted to another girl at some point...ESPECIALLY when you first leave your house, and experience a completely different world than what you were used to at home. so, maybe you're gay, maybe you're not, either way, it does'nt matter! i know i'm not gay, but i'm definately attracted to other girls...mostly attracted to them because of features they have that i don't..like large breasts, or blonde hair, or tan....so maybe it's just a phase you're going through...i was attracted to my best friend for a while, and then one night we drank alot, and started making out..i mean, it was fun and all, but it made me realize that i really really like guys!! so, maybe that's all it is! but, like i said, even if you are gay, or bi, that's fine!!!! and tha'ts awesome that you have a friend willing to help you out during this!!! i didnt' really offer much advice, but i just wanted to tell you i know how you feel!! hope things get better!! peace!
