may his wife plant her foot in both your asses... why would you even get yourself in a situation like that?
Any 44 year old man who gets off on an 18 year old is a problem to start with let alone a friend of his children's. While you do not control his morals, you sure do your own. You have shown total disregard for not only your friends but also a woman who made you welcome in her home and from what you have said treated you not only respectfully but as familial. You young lady can give all the clap trap you want to about loving him as that is exactly what it is. An excuse to do something that you should not of done. You made a decision to break up this family the moment you started the affair. That is in all likelihood what will happen if it is discovered to be going on by that family. Proud of yourself?
i wouldnt put so much burden on Earth Angel, sure she owns her own actions no one can deny that but this man she is involved with is the one who took sacred vowls and entered into an agreement with his wife, not EA (Earth Angel). Plus I get the feeling if any manipulation is going on, it is probably on his part but that is just my instinct. Regardless it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship but "love" can do funny things, try and be careful EA it sounds like this has gone way too far and is dangerous.
Bullshit. It doesn't matter if he is 70. That age thing is fucking way out of range. She's 18 for fuck's sake. She's not a goddamned 4 year old who is ignorant of sexuality. This puritanistic bullshit pisses me off. I am 6 years older than my wife. All these puritans ran their collective traps about "robbing the cradle" and how it would NEVER work, etc. 10 years, a son, and 5 vehicles later...still going. Stronger than ever. Look, angel-- You are not helping yourself by keeping yourself in a possibly dangerous situation. Cut him off and look for someone, not YOUR OWN AGE, but someone who loves you and wants to be TRUE to you...NO MATTER WHAT THEIR AGE.
I just think thats a horrible situation to be in and shouldnt have gotten herself in it.. and the guy is a piece of shit regardless...
Earth Angel...first Of All I'm Not Going To Judge You, As I Have Been There Myself. I Know You Come On These Sites Looking For Support And Advice And What You End Up With Is Getting Blasted, But I'm Sure You Understand This Is A Pretty Touchy And Personal Situation For Alot Of Women On Here. I Too Got Involved With A Married Man Years And Years Ago, And He Left His Family For Me. But Once I Had Him, I Realized I Didn't Want Him. I Guess I Just Got Caught Up In The Thrill Of Having A Secret Affair, But Once It All Came Out And Everyone Knew...everybody Hated Both Of Us. It Was Very Depressing, And I Hated Myself For Breaking Up A Family. Even Though They Weren't Happy, I Still Had No Right To Do What I Did, And The Worst Thing Was They Had A 7 Year Old Little Girl And It Devestated Her World. I'll Never Forgive Myself For All The Hurt I Caused. I Was Also Married At The Time To My First Husband (i'm Remarried Now, This All Happened About 12 Years Ago) Anyway, The Guy I Had An Affair With Was My First Husbands Best Friend, So I Ruined That Relationship Too. Sometimes, You Have To Be The Bigger Person, And Put Your Own Feelings Aside. Things Like This Rarely Work Out And Even If You Do End Up Together, You're Going To Have To Live With Yourself And The Pain You Caused To People Who Did Not Desreve It. I Know It's Hard When You Think You're In Love With Someone, To Walk Away. But From What You Said, It Sounds Like You Already Know This Is Wrong. My Advice Is To End It(like Yesterday), Before Someone Ends Up Geting Hurt And Then It's Too Late To Do Anything About It. Put Yourself In His Wife's Position And Try To Imagine How You Would Feel If It Was Your Husband And Friend Having An Affair Behind Your Back. Ya Know People Aren't Stupid Or Blind And It Will Eventually Come Out Even Though You Guys Think You're Getting Away With It, And Then It Will Be Too Late To Make It Right Again. I Feel For You, I Really Do, But Wrong Is Wrong And Karma Is A Bitch. Do Something About It Now While You Still Can. You Don't Want To Have To Live With The Fact That You Had A Part In Breaking Up A Family. Like I Said, It's Been 12 Years Since My Affair, And I Still Wonder What Kind Of Damage I Inflicted On That Little Girl And His Wife. It's A Fucked Up Thing To Live With. If You Need Someone To Talk To Privately...you Can Pm Me. I Come On Here Like Once A Day, And I 'll Talk To You And Be Here For You. Think Real Hard About Your Next Move And Don't Do Anything You'll Regret Forever. You Are Still In Control Of Your Situation And You Know What You Need To Do. I'm Here For You, Ok? Good Luck And Take Care. I Hope To Hear From You (pm Me)....susan
suzy i dont mean to be rude but i hope not all your posts are like that, it is alot of jumbled up writing, it is very hard to read perhaps you should try paragraphs?
I was going to say that too. Look, people have incredibly complex lives. We shouldn't judge someone on any situation that we do not have direct first-hand experience with. Still, I doubt that your relationship will be substantial, unless this 44 yo has the mind of an 18 yo. or vice versa. You also must consider the strain an on-going relationship of this sort will put on your conscience, not to mention your friendships, his family, etc.
shes 6 years your junior.. and its lasted 10 years, meaning it started when you were 20.. and she was.. 14?
well, i figure.......... cheating isnt what breaks up a relationship. A relationship has to be broken already for cheating to occur. This asshole needs to have the guts to do the right thing and either fix his relationship with his wife or get a divorce. Earthangel: you my dear are his little fantasy. This guy doesnt have the balls to be a man and do the right thing. If he feels so stongly for you, he would have done the decent thing, ended his relationship then been perfectly available for you. He is insulting you by forcing you to be his dirty little secret. He obviously doesnt respect you because of your age. He thinks he can treat you like a child. (note: i was in a situation similar to yours,once, so i know what im talking about)
regardless of anything else, this man is totally at fault. he is the one who is married...no one makes anyone cheat on their spouse, people do it all by their own merit. However, we all live on this earth with one another and we need to respect each other, man! (you know the golden rule?) You aren't showing any respect for his wife, his marriage, or his children who you say are your friends. Why would you want to be with a man who has proven that he is a liar and a cheat? Are those the qualities you look for in someone? Maybe you cannot help your feelings but you can help your actions and what you are doing isn't right.....but you know that I am sure. I totally agree with what adeela said as well.
No, and sorry as while he has moral obligations.......so does she. She is responsible for her own morals and yet chose to ignore those. I will not make him out to be the villain as she also made a choice that was to sleep with him and damage his family and her trust in that family. Called maturity and ownership. Period. Ya did it and you wear it.
sounds like a doozy, this is something I can't comment about, because 1. I have never been in a relationship long enough to have an affair 2. I am not 44 and 3. I don't know how hard or easy it is to resist against the "charm" of a 44 year old, because I am not a female...but all I can say is that, I hope the his wife doesn't murder you, and I hope the kids don't go into a deep depression if they find out that their friend is in an intimate relationship with their father
Usually 6yrs is no big deal its the preception of when those years fall. If she was 14 and you were 20 I can understand some concern but you were both very young and were still on the same life experience level all in all. Hell I'm almost 9yrs older than the guy I'm involved with right now. I find when there's huge age differences theres also too many other things missing as well. I like to be able to deal with someone I'm with as an equal and I can't when they are still missing too many life experiences. I don't need more children and certainly don't want to have an intimate relationship with someone my childrens age. I make sure I say no to those opportunities after one dalliance I had a few years ago with someone 18yrs my junior. Just bcause there is an attraction doesn't mean you can't say no. The friendship you bore to the rest of his family should have helped you make that decision. He is a total piece of shit in my eyes. He cares even less. Is there no honor, loyalty and trust anymore? Even if you did end up with this dh, what do you have....someone that has no real morals or scruples. You have someone you know will cheat and baby, if he cheated on her like that what makes you think he wouldn't again.
What a rough rough situation to be in. However, you're 18 and should know by now that this is totally wrong. If it carries on, you're going to hurt lots of people and then you'll wonder why everyone hates you. But, it's your decision.
