this is the first time i 'cheated'

uh okay i cheated on my boyfriend today..great! i mean this is what happened - well me and my b/f been goin out for like a month but these past 1-2 weeks i just havent felt a connection bewtween us anymore..like i jsut lost that..'loving feelin' haha, but seriously. but it kills me cuz hes the most wonderful guy he tottaly kares about me and does anything to please me. so i told him that i kinda lost that spark bewtween us, but he says we shud hang out again to see how i feel. i agreed. but arent hanging out till monday..and these past couple days ive been talking to this OTHER GUY..whom i find very attractive and very fun to talk to and all...i feel kinda bad cuz im all talking to this other guy and flirting with him. but anyways, today me and that other guy hung out..and i just felt like i wanted 2 hold his hand.so i did. den i jsut felt like i wanted 2 kiss him..and we did...and it felt so good! cuz my boyfriend isnt a good kisser..but this guy is. and i jus feel more of a 'connection' bewtween me and this new guy. and for some reason i dont feel as bad as i thought i wud. maybe its because i dont really like my boyfriend anymore. i dont know if i shud tell him tho. i was thinkin that i wud STILL hangout with my boyfriend that one last time to see if its still 'there'...and if its not..den im just going to confess. but im not sure wut 2 do if i feel 'it' with my boyfriend...im assuming that i wont feel anything..but i guess either way i should tell him what happened, right??? or..wut do u think about all this??? thanks!

 

You need to just break up with your boyfriend. If you've only been going out a month and there's no connection there, there was probably no real connection in the relationship- just new relationship excitement. Don't draw things out for him because that's just really mean, if he cares about you then he's going to be upset and the longer you wait the worse it will be.

 

wheter you break up or not tell him what happened you will feel better i went through the same thing with my ex

 

pick one or the other. If you didn't feel close to him in the first place, you should have broke up with him.

I'm sorry, but I think you're a dishonest whore. How hard is it to say I don't want to see you anymore. Do the right thing. What if he did that to you? How would you feel? Wouldn't you rather have him say I don't want to see you anymore instead of going behind your back and sticking his cock in some other girl.

Cheating is so nasty. Get some respect for yourself and for other people.

 

+1

 

I think that's just the way it is when you date. Some people you connect with, and some you just don't. I definately wouldn't drag this shit out though. It's not fair to him, I mean I'm sure there is someone out there for him as well.

 

Couldnt Agree with you more headymoe. (hehe that rhymes, sorta) I mean I dont understand why people cheat on each other. Especially with Dejavoo's situation, she finds this great guy who treats her right and cares about her but after losing her "loving feeling", which was probaly not real in the beginning, goes behind this guys back and makes out with a next dude. It doesnt make sense to me, It's happened to me before because I was the "nice guy". It sucks.

 

You Fuckin Slut!

 

Cheating is the ultimate betrayal! You are literally stabbing you mate in the back and twisting the knife. Yet is amazing so many people engage in it, and for a few moments of sinful pleasure, they have a lifetime of shame!

 

i know its bad but im jus like confused..thanks ill have to set thangs straight.....

 

You are young enough, where you will recover fine. I think you should tell him though. That is the right thing to do, and it may be hard, but you will gain a lot of character from it, not to mention it will help satisfy your conscious. Good Luck!

 

Ummm I could never think that cheating "feels" good or exciting. I would stay up at night in worry and guilt ..I admit everyone is human .. and we must def TRY to make a clean break or be honest about it ..BEFORE doing anything else .... .or doing anything .. talk about it... think it .. get a plan going .. bad karma ..but I admit .. we are all human .. ugh .. dammed way to be sometimes

 

I think you shouldnt play games like this and just decided to be with no one and just date around..
Its not fair for anyone really..
If you dont like your boyfriend, dump him, its quite simple really.. i dont understand, if ya wanna be with someone else, then dont be in a commited relationship, again its that simple..

 

you know, its okay. I know cheating is bad, I"m sure you do too, but I think people are being a little extreme here. Its not like you did it out of spite... so its not as bad as theire saying,... you just did it because you were confused... maybe you didnt think it would eventuate until it was already happeneing...

Not everyone is perfect ladies and gents, and cheating and monogamy isnt always as clear cut as you all seem to think it is.

I think perhaps you should chill from both boys until you decide what you want, maybe you dont want either, perhaps you'd be better off being single... vand then you can have all the boys !
good luck babe!

 

hate to tell someone i dont know this but cheating is the worst thing a person can do in my mind....i don't understand it at all....i have given my husband everything...and if he cheated on me, it would distroy me...i just found out both of my parents cheat on eachother and that hurt me alot....without trust there is no relationship....i don't understand why people cheat....sex is wonderful and more powerful if you love the person, a commeted relationship is so deep and to share something so specal with one person is so meaningful....if your having a bad sex life that is half your fault, why don't you put the effort into your relationship and make it better, then waste it on cheating (it creates too many problems for everyone involed)...........people who cheat should never be loved...and they dont deserve it at all.....never in my life would i throw away what i have with my husband for sex....that is so stupid and selfish....

 

your right

 

deffinately tell him what happened. its only been a month he shouldnt be too broken up over it....pun intended.

 

He got to Fuck you right? So im assuming it wouldnt be that bad of a loss for him. So tell him.

 

Why were you even with him if you're just going to fuck around?

 

I Really Don't Think Anybody Should Be Calling Her A Whore Or A Slut. She's Very Young And She Should Be Dating. There's Nothing Wrong With That. Damn All The Girl Did Was Kiss The Two Different Boys, So How Does That Make Her A Whore? People Come On Here Looking For Support And Advice And Just Because Some Of You Had Bad Personal Experiences In The Past (or In The Present) I Really Don't Think It's Fair To Lash Out At A 17 Year Old Girl And Call Her Names. Some Of You Make It Hard For People To Come In Here And Talk About Their Problems. Did It Make You Guys Feel Better To Call A Little Girl A Whore? That's Just Fucked Up. Dejavoo...if You Need Somebody To Talk To Who Isn't Going To Judge You And Call You Names, Why Don't You Pm Me. I Would Be Happy To Help You Out, And Just Ignore What Some Of These People Say. Everybody Has Problems, And They Shouldn't Take Their Issues Out On You. If You Wanna Talk..i'm Here, Ok? Take Care Sweetie.