Something for all the guys in the forums...

And that will be the likely root of your troubles. You have to learn how to take care of yourself. Relationships are a two-way street. One cannot be the sole giver and expect to be happy. And the one who is doing all the taking, tends to lose respect for the other. So you both make each other worse.

Once you learn to love yourself enough to be able to take care of yourself and stand up and say "No. I am not doing that for you." or "No. I am not letting you do that to me." Then you will have more mutually happy relationships. Unless you are with someone who just wants to take, take, take... Well, then you don't need to be with that person, to begin with.

Most people don't want to take advantage of their mates. And when you put them in the situation where they are doing that, it isn't good. I know, I've been there. I have had to learn to set boundaries and stand up for myself and not let myself be walked all over.

You need to take care of yourself. It will make you a happier person and likewise, your partners will be happier...

 

when/if i find a girl willing to say yes when asked to share my life i will take on board what you have said. i am in the need of a happy christmas this year. feeling depressed after illness in june and being in a bad crash 6 weeks ago. only started walking again this week . to go through this alone i wouldn't wish on anybody.thats why i joined the forum. I joined due to being lonely with no one to realy call a friend just a few aquaintances, no one to talk to just a mass, dark , unwelcoming void i could feel myself being draged into. So here i am with my new THF family to help me through

 

Well, there are lots of good people *and a few bad ones* on the hipforums... You'll not want for friends, I'm sure.

Sorry to hear about your poor health. Well, you started walking again, this is a great improvement. When you're at the bottom, there is only one place to go, up!

I'm sure you'll find a nice girl to spend your life with. Don't lose hope. Hey, maybe you'll even find one on the forums!

 

Thank you for taking the time to talk. It means a lot to me that you have.you see in life in the outside world emotions are hiden due to working with the public then all i do is paint/draw or poetry to release the feelings traped inside .So again i thank you from the bottom of my heart
T H A N K Y O U

 

I know exactly how you feel. I've been there, man. Knowing that I may have helped brighten someone's day, even just a little, is thanks enough.

 

Awwww. How sweet! lol People are such assholes these days. Who can blame them, they don't smoke up, and they are a capitalist machine. Not good. Money is good, but working yourself to death isn't. I'm convinced that if everyone hung out in California, took more naps, didn't work so damned much, and took the time to have fun, they'd care for other people a little more. I was a total fuckhead when I was laying cable for 11 hours a day. I said, no thank you! Ofcourse, if everyone did what I suggested, California'd be a pretty dry and crowded place. lol

 

I couldn't agree more! In fact, there are some countries where they are doing just that. My friend lived in Malta for a time and he had to adjust to the local practice of closing up shop, at noon everyday. But, they realized that people need to take a break and he said that a lot of people actually took naps during those few hours. His opinion was that the Maltese were a relatively happy group of people.

 

4 posting! Keep 'em coming!

 

I agree

 

Should a girl speak her mind?

Sure she should. I agree that there should be no difference or priority on who should ask first. Equal rights surely extends at least that far.

Anyway, what on earth is the point of two people thinking about each other and wondering. Just ask. The worst they can do is say no. I'ts no big deal.

I was once in a disco on the South Coast of Turkey. I had been dancing all night and eyeing up this nice German girl. I know she had been looking at me so I waltz up to the bar and in my best German I say " Can I get you a drink?" She looks at me half smiling for about 20 seconds and then says in English "You want a fuck?" I said OK and we went to the beach.

Kind of unreal but I like it when a girl speaks her mind....

 

this is the 21st century if a girl wants to go out with me, get to know me, or even fuck me... why shouldnt she say so? I hate society's standards that claims that because of your gender type you have to be a certain way.
Girls should ask me out I'm single and not looking away lol
greg

 

i disagree, women should get their heads out of their pussies and stop being pussies and grow some nuts and ask a guy they like out.

 

haha, so true...

I could never understand why guys have to be the one too, that makes about as much sense as pro-lifers killing people...

 

There shouldnt bee no asking out.
Theres just sexing out, and the rest will follow...maybe

 

Of course girls should ask guys out! And not only that, I think that it makes more sense for a girl to ask the guy out than the other way around. The problem with guys asking girls out is that the signals girls send are way to subtle! Or at least, they are too subtle for many guys to pick up. Girls are better at picking up signals, and guys are usually a lot more direct about them (drooling is a dead giveaway).

 

I'll drop subtle signals and that sort of thing but when that doesn't seem to be working I'll ask the guy out because I am tired of waiting for guys to ask me out. I mean come on, when I know what I want I go after it and don't wait for it to come after me.

 

I'm Really Not Old-fashioned, But I Guess I Am When It Comes To This Subject. If I Think A Guy Is In To Me, And I'm Feeling It Too, I'll Just Flirt A Lil And Then Let Him Make His Move. It Never Failed Before, And If A Guy Doesn't Ask You Out, Even After You Let Him Know You Are Interested, Then I Would Have To Say He's Just Not Interested. Common Sense. I Mean If A Girl Doesn't Like A Guy, She's Not Going To Send Him Any Signals, The Same Goes For A Guy. Just My Opinion.

 

I really hope no one still goes by the silly rule of the guys can ask the girls out and not the other way round. Not to sound like a stalker but if you want someone go after them no matter who you are. Girls are equal right, so why shouldn't they ask boys out.

 

I think it should go both ways....why not right? If you see someone you like, go after them.

---Although I don't ask out woman anymore...each time I hear "Ewww,no" is like a dagger in the heart now. It's horrible & it makes you feel less than nothing. If a woman wants me, she better approach me, cuz I ain't goin to her. Last thing I need is to fall back into depression again..no thanks.

 

Agree, I like that kind of direct girls.