Hey, fellow HIPForum-ites!! sorry it's so long I don't know what to do. Here's the story... Early March, I met this nice chick who also happens to stay at the same flat as me. We've gotten to know each other pretty well over the past months. During this whole time I knew that she had a boyfriend, and it didn't bother me at all because he's a couple hundred kilometers away. And they don't see each other much. Like once every three months and stuff... Anyway... throughout all these months that have passed, we've really grown very close [did I mention, I see her every single day??] ...anyway... A few weeks after knowing her we started kissing, cuddling and all those good things. And then at some point the sexual tension rose so much that I started fingering her and I got me a handjob. Which was fine by me, coz it meant that there's a possibility that we could push it up another notch. So this past weekend [Saturday to be exact] her boyfriend comes to visit [but luckily he didn't stay the night... that would've killed me] ...anyway...I was aware that he would be coming through, so I had to disappear for the day. At first it was all good coz I was surrounded by my friends and I had to work overtime so I couldn't think about her too much. When I had to go back to my place and be by myself for the first time in 4 months. I started thinking about her a lot esp. about us. And I couldn't help but immagine what they were doing with the guy. I mean obviously there were having sex that's just a fact. And the thing that pisses me off the most is the fact that we've both admited to each other that we have feelings for each other, and she goes and does this. OK, fine I understand that he's her boyfriend and all and I'm just the third weel and stuff. But I can't help it, I'm hurting inside and it's confusing me coz there's not much I can do about it. So I turn to you for a push in the right direction. sorry it's so long
_I am sorry you are feeling down but you answered your own question. She has a boyfriend it's natural that she goes w/him & if she is sexually active, she is probably having sex w/him. Do you know if she has feeling for him? Perhaps they are stronger than anything she might be feeling towards you. In matters like this there is no right direction. All I can say is talk to her, see where she stands -where you a one time thing? or is she doubting her relationship?- & listen to yourself, only you can decide what is right for you. From what I read you don't seem to enjoy being the third wheel.
Who would...[enjoy being the third wheel i mean] This ungreatful little bastard broke up with this girl at some point and I had to be the unbiased comforter and friend. She was really cut up about it. She was seriously in love with this dude. And then one way or another, they kissed and made up. But she claims she's deeply in love with me, and I know it coz I feel it. You know that feeling you get when someone tells you they love you without saying a word... that's what I feel. She felt really bad that the boyfriend had come over and she cried in front of me for the first time... it was all so very sweet and all. I think this could be love...
what I'm seeing here man, is that your not the boyfriend, and if she truly loves you, she needs to break up with the boyfriend and be with you. Obviously you dont like her bieng with this other guy. This same scenario will repeat and repeat. Lay down how it is and tell her you want her to stop seeing him and let him know that she and him are done, if that really is what you want. Peace and goodluck
I really don't know about that. What if she turns and says she, doesn't want to and rather let go of me than him??? WHat then??
Thats true, but You just have to ask yourself whether or not you can continue to see her and be happy knowing shes fooling around with him and you have to dissapear for that time.
