My First Tattoo...

Has anyone here ever gotten a tattoo while still living at home and your parents were totally peeved over it? Yeah, well I just got one and I love it, but my mom is freaked out really bad, she can't seem to get over it. Any advice as to how I should handle it?

 

do something worse so she forgets about it

 

give her time. my dad didn't talk to me for a little while when i had my eyebrow pierced, but i think after he saw no one else cared, he let it go. that or he figured out that i make up my own mind about that stuff and it's pointless to be mad.

anything after that wasn't so bad btw. the first tattoo was kinda bad with my mom, but again, they forget about it after a while. (and i found out after that my mom wanted one..)

 

Just give her time. It's permanent, so she has to get over it. It's not just the tattoo, she has just realized that you are going to be making your own decisions, and she may not like them all......

 

My sister just got a *new tattoo. She had this elmo one on her leg, it was really fucking ridculous. Well, her dad never knew about it, but me and my mom did. So she decided a year later(about a month ago) that she did'nt like it(which i knew would happen) and decided to get it done over. So she got this random black panther on her leg. The thing is fucking huge, from her knee to her ankle and halfway around her leg. Her dad has'nt seen that one either.

I completely forgot what I was going to say, so I'll leave you with that entertaining anecdote.

 

hehe -- just go ahead and get one (well, I guess U already did), because it's much easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission

 

i got my first tat when i was 18, still living at home. mom was pretty pissed for a few days, but she got over it.

even though i'm grown, and don't live with her anymore, she still gets mad when i do stuff like that. i got my nose pierced a few months ago, and she wouldn't speak to me for days.

 

parents can be very strange about stuff like that...i never quite understood why. i got my first tatoo at 15 and i showed it to my mom at 16 because i didnt like it anymore and wanted it done over. she didnt freak out and took me to a place to have it redone. she didnt say anything when I got another one at 18, but when i got one at 20 she was suddenly horrified by it and refused to look at it when i tried to show her. i also have 4 piercings, 2 of which are on my face (nose and tongue) but when i mentioned having my lip done she got pissed and said she would never look at me again even if it meant literally never seeing me again. i dont get it at all. maybe if you try to explain your perspective on things she could try to understand. being mad wont make the tatoo disapear.......what did you get for your first one?

 

get another one she will forget about that one


peace
chickens

 

"Get another one so she'll forget about the first one" "Do something worse so she'll forget about it" Yeah, you could listen to these angry-at-their-parents individuals... But think about it logically: Most likely, she's angry first off because she really wanted one when she was young (or now) and couldn't get one because of her parents, or because of social standards. Or, she's angry because you didn't talk to her about it first. Also, I was wondering what it was, because a smiley face or a simple tribal probably wouldn't be as troubling, but a devil or anything she might consider lude or sexual is probably her just freaking out over you growing up. Letting go of (control of) your kids is the hardest thing you can do, seeing them become unique individuals is one of the best things in life.

-Peace

...And quiet

 

sounds like to me no one can take a joke and im not angry at my parents im happy so dont go on acting like u know me chicken

peace
chickens

 

I can take a joke, and I didn't mean you in particular. It's a fact that many people, men and women are angry at their parents and lash out by getting tattoos or piercings (the second most commen reason for doing so). The most common reason for getting either one is to attract attention. I'm not claiming to know you or anyone here, just offering an opinion & hopefully good advice.


-Shmoke and a pancake?

 

just don't rub it in her face, she obviously didn't like that you got it, but don't be immature about it and act all 'ha! you hate tattoos so i got one, what are you gonna do about it now!?' cuz that'll make it into a whole new problem.

 

I can't really relate to that because I took my 15 year old (he's almost 20 now) to have his first tatoo we have a very open relationship and when he wanted one I told him if he saved the money I would take him to a good clean place to have it done which I did he now has a second and I love then both. I chinese symbol for Tiger on his shoulder blade. (the one he had done at 15 I called him Tiger when he was little but it was his choice) and a wonderful tiny little dragon about 3" high on his ankle. I think they both look great.

I had my first at 15 as well but my parents didn't know and I did get into some shit when they did but they got over it in a few weeks and that was that. They will get over it and like has already been said. they really don't have a choice. I have had to have that one removed because of a lump underneath but I still have 3 others. I sit on 2 and one on my ankle. A spider, a mouse and a heart with a rose.

Love & Understanding
EnonEmouse

 

Yeah, actually it wasn't lewd or tasteless in any way in my opinion. It's actually very pretty. Here's a pic of it on the Hip Galleries: http://www.hipgallery.com/photopost2/showphoto.php/photo/4364/password/025b6b1333c520b5e22171e973806708/sort/1/size/medium/cat/500/page/

 

First of all, I love your ink.

Second, my parents always seems to find out about the things I do that they don't approve of when there's a bigger problem at hand. For instance, they found out I smoked just after I told them that I was depressed & was cutting myself. My mom learned about my tattoo (my dad still doesn't know) when I was rushed to the ER when I broke a bone in my lower back (I fell at a show while crowdsurfing).

But when I got my tongue pierced, I walked into my house, & figuring I should let her know up front & not keep secrets from her, stuck my tongue out. My mom just shook her head, told me it made me look like trailer trash & asked me to put my tongue back into my mouth. My dad found out about my tongue ring about a month or two later while were all at the table eating dinner. I coughed & my dad calmly looked over at me & asked if I was choking on the metal rod through my tongue.

Even though my mom REALLY disapproves of my ink, once I explained to her the meaning behind it, she understood a little better. I've never thrown it in her face & she hardly ever sees it, since its in a pretty well-hidden place. I've gotten more work done in the same area & I've told her about it. She only responds by asking me to not get any more. The odd thing is that my 20-year old brother wants to get a moderately-sized celtic circle on his calf & my parents actually like the idea, & at times have even encouraged it.

So, after this long-ass post, all I can offer is that sometimes parents are as hard to figure out for us as we are to them. Like someone else suggested, just don't throw it in her face or try to assert your growing up-ness. She'll cool down after a while.

peace
cortnee

 

my mom absolutely hates tattoos, and when i got mine, she made little comments constantly about how I made bad decisions. She got over it though, and still loves me for me. She will get over it eventually, it just might take some time. I think that a lot of parents come from a generation where they think that all tats are trashy, even though many are detailed works of art. I know mine's beautiful, and so is yours, so I would suggest just waiting it out. She'll come around.

 

Actually my friend Cameron at Snake's did it for me. Snake's is on Platte Ave. If you're familiar with the Springs, drumminmama. It's not "my heart flies in the mountains" but that's a nice expression too.

 

Hi,I'm thinking about how I would feel if one of my sons came home with a tattoo. I guess if they had earned the money and wanted one, I would be cool with it. I'd counsel against having your boyfriend or girlfriends name tattoed on you while you are young, as relationships change and you don't want to be wearing a Robyn while you are going out with a Sophie!

To the original poster, I reckon your parents could be angry for one of several reasons. Could be they would have liked to discuss it with you first, could be they see it as a life style indicator. This is going back some years as I am in my forties, but one day bored at school I drew a black flower on the back of my hand in ink. That evening my mother freaked, she was convinced it was a tattoo and I was on drugs. Even when I scrubbed the damn thing off ( it would only fade as it was real ink) she was still sobbing and weeping in the kitchen. Went to my Dad and he threatened me with all kinds of things. I remember being totally bemused at the irrationality of adults!

Looking back, I was their oldest child, and my mother especially had led a sheltered life, anything out of the ordinary was not acceptable, and she has always liked being in control LOL. When you start to take independant actions that parents would not approve of, its tough for us, so we often over react.

I guess I think that its important to your relationship with your parents how you handle this. Don't rush in and get another tattoo. Try talking to them, telling them what the tattoo means to you , let them into your world a bit, it might help,

wishing you peaceful family realtionships

Moominmamma