Would you date below your own socio-economic status?

I would certainly give it a try! But if it came down to the point that we were living together, it would depend on the reason for being a little poor. If it's because they are lazy- no thanks. BUt if that's just the way things worked out for that person, and s/he was really trying to work, I wouldn't care at all.

I would date someone who had more than me too. It would be weird, and I would feel poor as dirt sometimes compared to that person, but if I was in love, I doubt any of this would matter.

 

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I don't love money.. I love people

 

I take everyone for who they are--financially speaking, I am not concerned, because not everyone is poor on purpose...

 

true...theres a word for those who only date people who are a lot better off than them

personally money isnt an issue...as long as i have the love the person im with and i love them..thats all i need

 

When I met my partner nearly 20 years ago, I made more money than he did. He was a bike messenger and I was a newspaper copy editor. Now, he makes more money than I do. He's now a information technology technician and I'm a radio disc jockey. Do I care that our financial fortunes are the reverse of what they were two decades ago? Not a whit. We still love each other, so why should I care?

-- Skeeter

 

i've been homeless more than once. its hard to be in a relationship when living out of your car. i'm not lazy fyi, i work hard and keep my home clean. just fell on tough times.

 

If it was a guy who was poor because he was too lazy to go to college or get a job, then no way. If he was poor because he chose to live a life on a different, more philantrophic path (a teacher or work in the Peace Corps, for example) then it's a different story. I've always planned on being the money-maker in any relationship I'm in because I need that kind of financial security (typical Capricorn). College is pretty much a must for me though regardless of socioeconomic status. As long as the guy can live on his own two feet and isn't constantly asking me for money (because I would never do that to a guy) then it really doesn't matter.

I think it would be harder for a poorer guy to date me though. Although my parents have been out of work for two years (not for lack of trying...), we're by no means destitute. I still lead a comfortable life. My grandfather is a millionaire who dotes on me and there are alot of family expectations on me (but nothing that I wouldn't want to do anyway). I'm going to be in college for 10 years, be a lawyer, make a 6 figure salary, and have a comfortable family life. That's just what's normal for me. I know my boyfriend, who doesn't come from a wealthy family, feels very threatened by my grandfather in particular because around him, life is almost aristocratic. I've spent my entire life going to the country club with him and schmoozing with rich older people about politics, literature, whatever... It's what I've grown up with so it's not anything out of the ordinary for me, but that kind of atmosphere really scares my boyfriend. But that's ok.. he loves me for all my and my family's quirks and that's the most important thing.

 

no i would not and let me tell you why- i don't nor will i ever make enough to live on because i work for a non-profit so since im looking to get married i need to be realistic in seeking a partner who makes at least as much as i do, men are insecure about it if they dont make as much as you, i couldn't date anyone who let me pick up the tab for dinner- this is awful but i lose respect for men who have no problem letting me pay for things and men who don't make a lot seem to do nothing but talk about finances and i find that tacky and uncomftrable.

 

*sigh*

 

I would.. But it would depend.. are they making less money cause they are to lazy to get a better job.. Do they like their low wage job.. or are they miserable there.. How well do they handle their little money...But I would if they were happy doing their job.

 

Again, I never look at things when I want to date someone.. as long as they are working, then thats fine.. could care less..

I am not that well off... I work, have a okay job imo, and I am independent.. and if someone didnt want to date me cause i dont bring home big bucks, I only have enough to support myself, then they can lick my ass...

 

Why not? If you are going to refuse to date someone because of their status in life then you may be missing out on something good.

 

i think it would depend on how much lower socio-ecconomic status they are.

 

did you mean idiocy? haha... sorry, it was just the context of the word that forced me to point that out...

 

Yes, I would ... (..at least give it a shot)
Why wouldn't I? Strong affections can be nurtured and sustained despite such challenges surely?

Incidentally, I'm not in a particularly well-off area myself; nor do I have a 'prestigeous' ( is it not spelt 'prestigious'? ) occupation; so it's not really a major issue for me anyway. As for money: as long as they didn't try to sponge what I might earn myself, I can't see myself getting worked up about how much they earn.

I suspect alot of homeless women have attractive personalities as well. I've met decent homeless people before. In fact, I suspect I could find more affinity with alot of homeless people than I could with some 'high-flyers'. I've had thought-provoking and profound (..a 'cider-induced stupor' kinda profound - he talked a considerable amount of nonsense; but he was a nice guy) conversations with a homeless guy I used to know; and generally been at ease in his company. On the other hand: I have found alot of well-off people to be intolerably arrogant and pathologically-boring.

[ :H...Maybe I'm being dishonest with myself - this post is liable to be edited! ]

 

of course I would... what kind of jackass wouldn't...