So I love everybody. Everybody. Literally, I love everyone. But I'm in a monogamous relationship. It occurred to me tonight that a monogamous exclusive relationship sort of constitutes a contradiction of my own philosophy, beliefs, and even lifestyle. Now I'm not sure if I want to stay in said relationship or not. But I also don't want to hurt anyone. Any suggestions?
well you're only 17... i wouldnt be TOO worried about monogomous relationships yet. its healthy to date around and find out what types of people you want to be with and what types you dont. you have your whole life to be monogomous, if you so choose.. but you are only young once..
tell her how you feel... and do what you please... youa re 17... chances are yer serious relationships are bound to fail and sink anyway when you are that young... get out and enjoy life, i say.
I don't think so. I mean, there is "love" and Love, if you know what I mean. This is another story...do you feel you don't want to be in this relationship because you don't think she's the only one for you, or why else? Ask yourself and see.
I take it then, that you've realized that you're really polyamorous and that you're struggling to come out with it. I'm polyamorous, but it took me 20 years to come out with it. I knew long before the word "polyamory" was even invented that monogamy wouldn't work for me. Yet it wasn't until the early '90s that I finally did come out poly -- at the same time I came out bisexual. While not all bisexuals are polyamorous, I knew that for me, polyamory went as hand-in-hand with my bisexuality as salt and pepper went with my breakfast eggs. Does your Significant Other know? If not, then the two of you have to have a serious heart-to-heart talk about it, if for no other reason than for the sake of being honest -- regardless of whether your S.O. is okay with it or not. To paraphrase my closing signature, you have to be true with yourself before you can be true with anybody else. Honesty really is the best policy. So tell your S.O. the truth and let the chips fall where they may. -- Skeeter
I suggest that a normal 17 year old male wants to fuck anything that will let him. I also suggest that same male might convince himself that this desire constituted a pholosopy, a belief or a lifestyle as opposed to just being horney most of the time.
