Potential Date is a Virgin! And I am not!

So If I do break up with my bf and go ut with this super cute new guy....there is one problem. I think...and have heard from a good source that he is a virgin....not that it matters to me and not that I am gonna jump right in bed with him. But it does freak me out a little. He is soooo awesome and good looking...how could he be a virgin...oh and hes 23. Maybe hes all religious...i am not sure....its just baffles me! I know I am worrying about this way too early...but ya know, things happen when ya least expect them. I dont know if i have a question lol....just wanted to share this. Anyone have experience with relationships where you arent a virgin and they are. I mean geeeez he seems so innocent and I am not...i would feel sorta weird.

 

nothing weird about that.

i think i didnt get your point..

 

Go with the flow. What will happen will happen no matter what. Stop worrying and enjoy life!!!!

 

Do not -- I repeat -- DO NOT start a new relationship now. You're not ready for it. You need time to recover from the decaying relationship you have now.

It's not psychologically healthy for anyone to start a new relationship "on the rebound" under such circumstances at this time. Your current boyfriend has put you through too much grief to even think about starting up with a new boyfriend now.

Everyone needs time to recover when a relationship ends under negative circumstances as your present relationship is. Recovery requires a focus on yourself, if for nothing else than to regroup.

Moreover, your present relationship, because it's in such a horribly negative state MUST END FIRST. You said in your earlier post that your current boyfriend has fits of jealous rage. The last thing you need now is for him to find out about this new guy and go off in a rage -- which could have disastrous results for both you and your current boyfriend.

While there's nothing wrong with making new friends, treat the new guy as exactly that -- a friend -- before you even consider "taking the next step" with him. You've got to put your abusive current boyfriend out of your life first and recuperate from that.

As far as the new guy being a virgin is concerned, you can't be certain that he really IS a virgin. In this day and age, virginity among young American men in their 20s is EXTREMELY rare. I'd take those reports of the new guy being a virgin at 23 with a spoonful of salt. I'm not saying flatly that he's NOT a virgin, but I'm highly skeptical that he is.

-- Skeeter

 

in my dirty, corrupting little mind.....thats a good thing