Making The First Time As Less Painful As Possible?

Okay so right now I know I am not ready, and I won't be for quite a while still but, well to be blunt I'm very very small, and to be even more blunt only 1 finger fits all the way, it took me a very long time to get two and they dont fit nearly all the way and it hurt somewhat...

Well anyway I am in a relationship with a guy and he and I both know that I am not yet ready but we both want to prepare to make it as less painful as possible for me, as he is really big in size, so I'm just wondering what are some things I can do... starting small of course and working my way up, to make it not painful or as less painful as possible my first time?

 

Relax, if you're worried about it you're more likely to tighten up, making it more painful.

 

Don't focus so much on the possibility of pain. Like Zeitgeist said, if you're worried you'll be more likely to tighten up and it will in turn make things more painful.

Think about how much it hurts to push a baby out of there.

 

Yeah, its just sort of hard to not think about the pain after seeing how big he is. Well thats not going to happen for a long time still and he says he will wait forever if thats how long it takes me to feel ready.

 

Oh bless him! You can always get lots of practice in

 

Yeah, the more I think about it the sillier I feel for worrying so much...and then there is a part of me that just says "get it over with fast and be done" hehe

 

lube.........and lots of it!
seriously just chill the fuck out, try not to think to much about it and get him to give you oral first....I'll be damned if that doesn't do the trick. Although, it'll still probably hurt a little matey, just go for it

 

well considering that it hurts to even try two fingers I'm thinking its going to hurt a lot, but oh well...cant be afraid forever I suppose.

 

I'm 43 and fingers still hurt. They are harder than a penis. all the above advice is excellent. You'll be excited anyway and endorphrines release a pain suppressant.. You'll be ok. You said yourself that you're not ready yet. When you are ready you won't be so afraid.

 

Thank you. I was really freaking out there for a while. Hehe, I've yet to even kiss my guy still so yeah I want to savor every little thing down to the smallest hugs I get from him.

 

So did it go down yet?

 

One thing that might help is that there's a particular sensation that occurs during intercourse that doesn't during simple masturbation. That is the almost electrical sensation of having someone else touching you.

 

And what if I'm extremely ticklish and laugh and flail like mad? I dont wanna hurt the guy hahaha

 

In the meantime, could you kiss your guy for us? Anyone THAT patient really deserves it.