me and my boyfriend were talking about past experience(sexual) and for some reason , i felt like i needed to find these girls and like beat the shit out of them. for real it reeeal made me angry.. idk i guess i just want to be his first or something.. is this normal? has anyone else ever felt this way?
well it is nice to be some ones "first" especially if you havent had sex yourself. Although it maybe "normal" to be jealous of his past partners it certainly isn't helpful or healthy.
There's another thread by a guy that kinda deals with the same thing. He's jealous about his girl banging the night before she met him in a club bathroom. You think it could be a little insecurity on your part?
It's normal to feel awkward knowing that the person you love has slept with someone other than *gasp* YOU... but it's also something you have to accept if you really want a relationship with this person. It was before he met you, and you can't be angry at him or the girls for having a life before you came around...you know? As long as you know that whatever he had with these girls is over, that's all that should matter. If you can't trust him then that's a whole other story...
It's normal to feel that way. But isn't healthy to dwell on those feelings or to act on them. Just remember he is with YOU now, he chose to be with you. You must be better than them, or he still would be with them.
aww thanks... well, im not dwelling on the feelings or acting on them or anything.. i just really bothered me for a minute.
No, it's not normal. At least, not in this day and age. Fifty years ago, it was expected of young people under 21 -- yes, 21 -- to be virgins until they got married. Half a century later, a 21-year-old virgin would be regarded as being either "stuck up," a prude or a gay person who's either afraid to "come out" or has had difficulty in finding other gay people to relate to. The times, they sure have changed. -- Skeeter
