i don't know about being in luv, but i love my old friends. they were like my fuckin brothers. i remember me and one of em broke into the locker rooms at skool once. they questioned both of us. he got caught and didn't rat me out. that's what i call a tru friend. i never thought i would have friends like those three guys. we all went our seperate ways, but their spirit still lives on in my heart. that's how ya can tell when ya luv a friend. i never was really friends wit a lot of chicks. most the chicks that went to my highschool were dumb/stuck up bitches.
and I think I do know now :s... its so weird... we kissed. I have kissed boys before, but I didnt really feel anything. Monday I have kissed my best friend (a girl, like me)... I was chaking and it felt like my stomach was trumbling around or anything... I love her so much... but she got scared... she doesnt know wheter she is in love or not. she only knows that she loves me verry much. I just hope that one day we can be together... I want to marry her!
normally i don't think about my friends 24/7 but i finally came to terms with the fact that i was in love with my best friend (we are now married) and it hit me, i probly spent about 75% of my day thinking about this person, even when we didnt really have much contact with each other... i think you just know when you are in love with someone, i know because everytime i talked to the friend i was in love with i got all nervous and had butterflies in my tummy, even tho i was completely comfortable around him and we had been friends for 8 years.... thats not the only way i knew but its one of the things that i finally realized and wonderd why i never admitted my feelings sooner!
^ ive always been confused about when you love a friend or if your in love with a friend. i love and care for all my friends, but i agree with funkyphreshmama, that when you spenda great deal of time thinking about them (80% of my day, currently) it could be that you love them. my problem has not been wondering if its really love, more than actually accepting that its love or strong mutual caring when it is. ive newly realized that when i have romantic feelings for someone, its for some reason difficult for me to accept those feelings because i fear it may be one-sided. and thats a bad habit, to fear regection. and the more i care, the more i fear being regected, ech, not so good for me. unless im pushed, i wont admit my feelings no matter how bad i want too. i guess i gotta get out of that habit, then. ~peace~
1) Loving friendships last much, much longer than romantic relationships, because the love you have for a friend is more likely to be unconditional. And romance is ephemeral; it doesn't last long. 2) You share secrets with your friend that you wouldn't share with anyone else, not even your romantic lover. 3) You don't care if your friendship is Platonic or sexually intimate. Either way, the friendship will still be there. On the other hand, once the erotic intimacy ends with a romantic partner, the relationship quickly goes down the tubes. 4) Losing a lover can be emotionally hard, but you soon recover. Losing a friend you love very much, however, can leave you devastated for months on end. 5) A loving Platonic friendship can, depending on the individual, be far more emotionally satisfying than a romantic relationship -- especially if you and the friend you love are of opposite sexual orientations and accept each other as you are. 6) On the flip side, a loving Intimate friendship can also be more emotionally satisfying than a romantic relationship because it's less likely to be poisoned by jealousy and possesiveness. That's my take on it. What's yours? -- Skeeter
i know they say that lovers come and go, but friends are forever. i dont believe many friendships are forever, b/c people change and some decieve you (i know someone that had a friend for 21 yrs and she was decieved by her friend, very bad), and platonci friendships dont last either, and are more destructive than a commitment - as the term "loving intimate relationship" doesnt exist b/c if you love someone, you only want them and you want to be their all as you know they are yours. the love you have for your partner is what is unconditional, not a friend (not most friends). when you are married or just deep in love, they are the ones you run to and if its love, again, its unconditional. just like family comes before friends, b/c your family is always there for you, right along with family is your signifigant other, whomever she/he may be. 1- so a love-commited romance will last forever if it is true, and with him, hed be there for you when your friends arent. who else is going to be able to say "i told you that bitch was crazy, when a friend hurts you" 2- you do share secrets when your truely in love, and to be yourself is the only thing you are when your with him. youd definatly tell your romantic lover deep secrets, hes most likely the only one who shares the same wavelenght and will understand, where most friends dont 3-a relationship that is only about erotic intimacy wasnt going to work out in the long run anyway. and its well known that after a "friends with benifits" both people are crushed, confused and the friendship dies soon after, for just as with infatuation, lust-ran relationships, friends with benifits are left emotionally drained and fustrated with time lost on that person who wasnt the one for them. 4-losing a friend can take an awful amount of time. but when your really in love, it could take years to get over it. 5-a platonic relationship or friends with benifits can rarely (if ever) be more emocionally satisfying than a true love, b/c a platonic friend isnt commited to you and if that huge part of love is missing, then something really big is. 6-jealousy and possesiveness can come from love, but youd know the person and to have a love for all your life is worth the try helping them work past those feelings b/c you love them that much and youd want to let them know they wont lose you. i deeply believe love is more important and should be put above anything else. and when you love someone, they are like family, and they love you no matter what. theyre are such things as true friends, but friends dont last forever, not all, and it doesnt compare.
