My bf is 42 and I'm 19. We have so much in common, except in one thing. He wants to have sex everyday. For me, it's enough if we do it 3 times a month or something. It's not that much of a big deal for me. I told him to play with himself, but that doesn't seem to help him and he gets cranky. I really love him and I'm willing to do anything for him. Anyway, he travels often for business trips in another city and I've been thinking.... I trust him, but I don't like having sex that much and I don't want him to get any diseases and mess around with some strange girl... So I'm thinking maybe he can have a girlfriend there who can take care of his needs. He really cares about me and I've never had any complaints... I don't see any other way to solve this. Makes any sense?
Becareful what you are inviting into the situation. You are talking about opening the relationship up, and allowing him to have physical emotion for someone else....and that type of emotion can lead into much deeper roots. I would ask him to understand that your drive isn't there yet---alot of women begin their drives in the late 20's-mid 30's, so because you are not active now, that is not to say it wont change. If he is willing to wait and succumb to your physical desires, then you have someone special. But under no circumstances should a person cheat--if he needs another woman that has a stronger drive, then release yourself from this relationship as opening it up can do some not great things---bring diseases, wrongful emotions, another child, etc....
