What do you think of a 21 year old guy and an almost 18 year old girl being in a relationship? I'm currently trying to figure out if I should act on my feelings for this guy and his advances... and I'd really appreciate any opinions you might have. It's a 4 years difference, but it really doesn't feel that way.
I think that is totally ok. I mean there is a development difference between guys and girls anyway, not only during puberty. So it's totally normal to have guys that are 2-4 years older then the girls. I know in some countries they take those laws pretty strict... but love will only find it's way. btw, my man is 6 years older then me, and I have been with him when I was 17... so.... and we'Re a cute couple!
I don't think that's too much of a difference, not at that age. For teens, like 14-18, that is quite a lot, but 17-21, 18-22, that's really not so great a difference anymore! One thing though; if it's illegal in your country/part of the world, and you really are almost 18, then it may be safer to wait just that little while. If it is illegal, even if YOU may be perfectly happy with him, someone else who finds out can cause major legal trouble for him.... whether it's someone who has a bone to pick for whatever reason (jealousy or just pissed off for whatever reason) or some well-meaning nosy busybody... I dunno whether you mean 2 weeks or 2 months by 'almost 18' and my personal opinion wouldn't change for anything like a few months' more or less, but it is something to consider. Especially if you suspect anyone close to you (like busy-body family members!) may object to the relationship.
Sounds good to me...but if you're questioning it then perhaps you must ask yourself if it makes YOU uncomfortable.
nothing about it makes me uncomfortable except for the things other people might say or think. i dont usually care what people say about me, but in this case... well it's a little bit of an important matter. my birthday is in october. so its a few months.
one of my friends is in that situation...shes a senior in high school, is 18, and hes a junior in college and is 21. it has worked out really well for them, and there really havent been many problems at all! go for it.
If you like him, and he's a nice guy, I don't see the problem. If you were 16, it would be different. Four years isn't that much at your age. The advice about waiting until you are 18 to have sex may be a good one. In some states, if one partner is 21 or over and the other is not yet 18, it is automatically "statutory rape." I am not saying I beleive this is right, but find out what the laws in your state is, you don't want to get him in trouble. But, otherwise, if you like him. Why not go out with him? Only you know how you feel.
At 18 it really isn't that big of a deal. When I was 16 I dated a 21 year old guy and it was a lot of fun! He was a sincere, nice guy and never took our fling too seriously, because he knew that I would be changing my mind as I grew older about what I wanted. Most of the time, my stomach clenches a little bit when a girl speaks of a much older guy wanting to date her, but I would think in this case it is fine.
its not a huge age gap, i say go for it!!!! it's perfect! its best to go for guys a little older than you, especially when you're 18,19,20...because most guys at that age are a bit inmature. thats just a generalisation, cos i've met really inmature 24 year old guys so i guess it doesnt apply to everyone everywhere
My boyfriend dated his ex-gf for 3 and 1/2 years in that same situation. I think she was 17 and he was 21...and they were cool, I guess. She was immature in that she cheated on him many times, but as long as you're personally mature enough to be in the relationship, you should be fine. He has said that he wouldn't date someone that young again, but they were in love and they're still good friends today, so yeah, it can work. Go for it, and have fun...
Hey, my husband and I are four years apart. I met him when I was 17, and he was 21. We've been together ever since, and I'm heading on 27, he, 31!
my boyfriend is 6 years older then me...It sounds like a lot I think but it really doesn't at all feel that way. As long as there's chemistry and your on the same level all's good.
My ex-boyfriend just turned 28 last weekend, and I'm turning 19 next month...more then a 9yr difference. And my boyfriend now is 21, and I'm 18. Age is just a number. My parents are 12yrs apart. If you were 14 and he was 18 I think it would be a different story though.
