I posted a topic here a few months ago about me and my boyfriend. that we are so different and stuff. Now he's a very jalous type, and i'm not. I an get a little jalous if a girl's talking long with him or if he's having fun with nother girl, but i drop it. being jalous is energy that you lose for what...? nothing. becaus there's nothing going on. but he stays jalous. I have a few male friends, and one sended an e-mail to me with it was nice hearing you (i sended an e-mail first) we should go to the city and hve a nice talk..... he gets freaked out, that i didn't erase the message, and heasked me not to meet him, so i say oke, i'l not meet with him, but if it's going to sty like this forever (and it will be) than i can never talk with my friends (if there male) there's no different for me, male or female friends..!
No matter what, you should never have to change or give up friends for your partner. He needs to give you some room to breathe, or he'll end up driving you to what he's afraid of most- losing you. Talk with him and find out why he is so jealous. Is he insecure? Do you flirt innocently and don't know it offends him? There could be a bunch of reasons as to why he is feeling that way. If he doesn't agree to let you have your own life, you should consider breaking up with him. You will only out up with it for so long, so don't drag out the process if he won't change.
Unless you have already betrayed your boyfriend by having sex with another man, there is absolutely no reason for his behavior. When I was younger I was involved with a very jealous man and it turned out quite badly. He became emotionally abusive over the course of our relationship and this took a toll on my self-confidance and my ability to trust men. What starts out as jealousy frequently progresses into emotionally or physically abusive behavior. If you get to a point where you feel uncomfortable discussing your boyfriend's actions with your friends because you are embarrassed or if you find yourself making excuses for his behavior, LEAVE HIM QUICKLY. Sorry for the long post, but I am passionate about this subject and I don't want anyone to go through an abusive relationship. Be strong and listen to your heart and instincts.
Okay, I have read the rest of your posts including the one about your boyfriend hitting you. Please leave him now. Other men will love you and they will treat you with kindness and respect.
Tell him in no uncertain terms that you don't like his degree of jealousy -- That it is, in fact, an unhealthy possessivness. He thinks he owns you; that you're his property and that no one else can touch you. People who hold such views about their partners are exrtremely insecure -- and self-centered. Tell your boyfriend that if he doesn't get rid of his possessive attitude, you'll dump him. He doesn't own you and have a right to your friends. -- Skeeter
