My boyfriend looks at porn on the internet nearly every day. It has always slightly bothered me but I can deal with it. Apart from certain occassions. 1. We woke up one morning and he got out of bed and came downstairs, logged on the internet and went straight onto porn sights. 2. He sits there on the sofa with his lap top, the screen facing away from me so I can't see, and looks at it. 3. We are getting married this year, I have just come back today from trying on wedding dresses and went online and there were loads of porno sites in the history and I can see what time he looked at it. I just don't understand why he does it when I am quite happy to fulfill his needs anytime of day? We are getting married and the wedding plans are at the forefront of my mind and clearly not at the forefront of his.... Please someone tell me if I am overeacting, I feel like I am but I can't help it that it bothers me. We have had several talks about the subject in the past and he knows how i feel about it, which is probably why he hides it from me. He can't understand why it bothers me, I know that it does not bother everyone, and it wouldn't me so much if it wasn't every day. I just know that as soon as i step out of the house he will be straight online looking at it again! Any advice please....
haha, yeah that would call his bluff, i don't think he'd expect that! Don't get me wrong, I'm no prude, I think I am just stressed about other things in my life that this is just one more thing to wind me up grr )
looking at porn is actually an addiction.. i know my friends dad is addicted to it.. and he is married.. but then again his wife is the same way.. but ya i would say try to enjoy it with him too.. that might shock him
see what kind of stuff he is looking at and if it is possible offer to copy what happens in the porn with him. talk to him and say that you are happy to do what he wants and it makes you feel jealous and worthless. just dont come across too harsh. try to reacha compromise.
i don't think u r overreacting,it would bother me as well nothing wrong with lookin porno but any kind of addiction is danger in relationship(include internet addiction) people usually ends up spending 2 much time and not having enough time 4 somebody else.they become isolated person.
some people wouldn't like my advise perhaps but i would say give yourself a bit more time don't rush 4 marriage live together and c how can u handle if u have any question in your mind why pushing your luck?
How old is your boyfriend? It's no secret that men under 30 years of age are in that "raging hormones" phase of their lives when their hearts are often overruled by their penises, regardless if they're single or attached. After age 30, men's sexual libido begins to gradually decline -- falling off sharply after age 60. But whether a man is 20, 30, 40, 50 or 60, when it comes to sex and eroticism, men require visual stimulation -- and pornography often serves that purpose. This is a major turn-off to many women, but men's need to be visually stimulated erotically is a reality that cannot be ignored. Having said this, your boyfriend's need to view Internet porn on a daily basis is nonetheless abnormal. Once a month or even once a week is pretty much harmless, but EVERY DAY -- and in spite of all your efforts to satisfy him? No way. It's a clear indication that he has an unhealthy addiction to sex. And an unhealthy addiction to sex, if left unchecked, will inevitably lead to unhealthy behavior that can put his overall health -- and yours -- in jeopardy. He needs counseling -- and he needs it as soon as possible. And if I were you, I'd postpone the wedding. -- Skeeter
When isn't porn okay? I've dated a few guys with porn addictions. Maybe because the friends I grew up with were all addicted to porn, so it never bothered me... but I don't mind when a guy feels the need to watch it. I'd rather have my guy watching porn than going out and getting a hooker....
I watch porn alot but I am not addicted to it. I used to be addicted to computer games. After like three years of everyday hardcore gaming I finnaly got bored. Edit: Actually, I still might be addicted to computer games.
It's not like I haven't tried talking to him about it, infact, I got quite upset one time and he seemed genuinely upset that he had hurt me, so I think now he just tries to hide it because he knows how i will react. He is 27 and we have already lived together for 2 years. I think it may be that I am not used to it, probably cos of the way I was brought up and none of my past boyfriends had a noticable porn fetish. I hate the fact that I snoop around on his laptop to see what he has been looking at, I just get quite neurotic about it and build up pictures in my head letting my imagination run riot, when what I am imagining is way off track.
