What is wrong with me? I'm acting all emotional and girly;it sucks;so this is love...

Well ok I am not all girly and emotional and stuff and I am blaming this on the fact that I got the depo shot a few weeks ago, but I dont know what is going on wiht me!

I Was sitting here thinking how much I want to go see my boyfriend, well I asked if someone would give me a ride after dinner (because I would figurered it was better to ask them before talking to him and telling him I would be over and then not being able to get a ride) Well I got an ok for the ride and I go in my room , sit down and call him becuase I really missed him today for some reason and I was just talking and he didnt invite me over, He didnt really seem ot want to talk becuase him and his roommate were smoking a blunt and playing halo and he didnt invite me to come over...well becuase of this after we got off the phone I just wanted to cry!...cry! over that! I wanted to see him and usually I wouild ask if he minded if I came over but I figurered it is kinfd of rude so I didnt and he didnt ask me to come over and that just breaks my heart...

I hate feeling liek this..it is not me...I dont cry because I dont get invited over to the house...

I dont think he is mad at me but damnit why do I care so much?!?! I am not the type of girl who cares about stuff like that...I know I should just not care and take it as he wants to hang out with his friends but noooo the first hting in my head now is "omg he must hate me, he is mad at me, he doesnt love me anymore, I got on his nerves and he is gonna leave me"

rrgh...this sucks
Is this just part of being a girl in a relationship or what?

 

I'm sorry. I know that you aren't feeling to hot after that. Sometimes guys aren't into us like we are into them. It's not their fault or yours. It's just what makes you different. It's exciting to find a man that's into you and wants to spend time with you. Don't take it so hard. (At least don't let him see ya doing it 'cause he'll feel bad or think he can walk over you. Either way sucks.) Just keep seeing him a little bit at a time and the infactuation will wear thin. You'll know after a month if you really care for him or is it just a passing phase. (You can have passing phases at any age. I don't believe in call someone's love a puppy love.) I feel all love is important and special but some are more than others.

 

I would've cried too, but I'm super sensitive. I hate being rejected or ignored.

 

Well, I love him, i know i do,it isnt that..at first I was really sad but he told me he hadnt been sleeping well lately and just wanted to sit at the house (which I think is his way of just telling me he is too tired for sex...poor thing) I am ok, just sometimes I flip out when i get dissapointed like that...It isnt something like him not being into me, I know he is..we are in love..im just not used to feeling this into someone..i was with a guy for 4 years (long distance) and I havent really had a relationship othern then that and then this one so it is hard for me to know what the do's and donts are in a relationship..like i know he isnt big on tact or looks so i dont usually worry about those things...I think I just care too much what he thinks about me..thats why i flipped out about him being mad...he is more laid back then that though..oh well

essentially i am just not used to feeling so so so emotional

 

I know what your going through, and i can pretty much tell you its probably the shot. I am on Depo too and when i get it, for like a month i am a complete mess, i cry at everything. Dr. Phil made me cry, and when my brother ate my left over salad from applebees, man that was an emotional experience! I am never like that, so i blame it on the hormones from the shot. Yeah that situation has happened to me with my bf too, and i reacted the same way, but i mean it is hard when you get that feeling like you really miss someone and you dont get to see them. so its understandable why you would be upset. I would have just told him, hey, i really miss you today and need a hug, is there anyway we can get together at least for a little bit so i can see you? that way you arent inviting yourself over or anything, your just initiating a get together. it always worked for me.

 

Oh my gosh! I know what your going through...and mostly likely it is the BC. I never and i mean NEVER used to cry EVER...to me crying is unacceptable...and then i got on the pill..and you look at me wrong i'll freakin burst into tears! My boyfriend will tell me he's working late and i'll get off the phone and cry...it sucks. i cry during commercials even.....

 

lol me too!!! like any one with a puppy makes me tear up now!! I almost cried because there was an old episode of south park on last night! lol

 

LOL... Okay, first of all... It is MOSTLY the hormones. They do funny things to us. Hell, I get teary and I'm not on Depo! Don't worry, the waterworks will go away, eventually...

And, I hate to be so general, but guys can be dumb about what we want. If you don't tell him straight-up that you want/need to see him, he might not even have a clue. He is probably thinking that if you want to call you'll call and if you want to come over you'll come over and he isn't thinking anything beyond that. So, next time, make sure you ask him "Hey, do you want some company?" or something. They can't read our minds and being hormonal you can easily make more out of it than it is.

 

thats good advice autumn..thanks a ton!...I wish guys got it though...I mean how hard can it be to understand that I want to talk to him everyday in a timely manner...and that I want to see him everyday and am aware that I cant so want to as often as possible...I just dont think guys get that if they dont want to hang out with their girlfriend it may potentially hurt her feelings...or maybe its just me..oh well...

 

I'm like that all the time, except I'm a guy. I guess that makes me kind of lame, but whatever. I'm just freakishly emotional.

 

They don't get it until you lay it out there. My boyfriend, the best guy I've ever had, had to be told point blank. And he is **incredibly** thoughtful and considerate. But he just didn't understand that I NEEDED to talk to him daily and see him three times a week. When I finally told him what I needed, he happily obliged. Now I talk to him several times a day and see him daily-he makes sure of it! They really don't know, until you tell them.

So, tell him!

And I don't think it's that they *don't want* to hang out with us... It's that they just don't think of it like we do. They just don't realize how much we want to spend time with them, how much we NEED to spend time with them. They don't NEED us like that, they are a different breed, and that's okay, we love them anyways.

Guys typically take things at face value. They aren't very good at reading between the lines and catching subtle hints. So yah, if you don't call, he probably thinks you don't need to talk to him. And if you don't invite yourself over, he thinks you really don't feel like coming over right now. And usually this doesn't offend them, because they aren't usually as emotionally obsessive as we are... lol

 

That's good, Lemongait... Emotional guys are great. My bf is emotional and it is wonderful!