I've been dating my current boyfriend for about 6 months now and I didn't tell him this when we started dating, but before we got together, I was attracted to other girls. I know it's irrelevant now but he sometimes says degrading things about homosexual and bisexual people and then when I complain he asks me why I get all worked up and now, I just want to tell him! But then again, it really doesn't matter right now...so...god, i just don't know what to do.
If you are not honest with him now about things like this, it could really mar your relationship down the road, especially if this guy is one that you would like to keep. Openly communicating with your partner will always do wonderful things for your growth...
have you ever made sweet sweet love to a woman? if not there isnt any reason to bring it up. if you have it will come up eventually, and its best to get it out of the way early on. dont invest years to something that will end suddenly and painfully. but if you were attracted and never acted, why stir the waters? you and him are exclusive I assume, and being Bi does not make you anymore likely to cheat, so who cares. However, maybe you should point out to him that you dont hate gays or bis, and ask him to not express those views in front of you. I dunno , I am a loner loser with opinions, couldnt keep a woman happy to save my life. maybe do the opposite of any advice I give you.
the more open and fully honest you are the better no good in a relationship ver came from keeping things hidden
he is gonna find out eventually.............. better from you than someone else. does anyone else know??? i wold just let him know and if he cant handle it then its time to move on!
Might as well tell him. I mean, he's asking you why you get worked up when he makes comments on people who's sexual orientations don't match his - that's a pretty direct question. It's not like you're asking to date women as well as him, or suggesting a threesome, it's just how you feel and when he makes fun of a part of who you are, that hurts.
If your boyfriend has a homophobic attitude, you've GOT to tell him, if for no other reason than to force HIM to make a decision: He'll either change his attitude and accept you for what you are or he'll break off the relationship. If he does the latter, then you're better off without him; you don't need to have a homophobic jerk for a boyfriend. Remember that it's HIS problem, not yours. -- Skeeter
Hey, you jerk! "Faggot" and "homo" are as insulting to gay and bi people as "******" is to black people. I happen to be both black AND bi, so KNOCK IT OFF! -- Skeeter
Do you really want to be with a guy who has these thoughts about gays and bis? Remember, everytime he slanders a bisexual, he's slandering you too. I think that you should definitely bring it up to him, especially if he makes another derogatory remark. Hell, if he's basing his prejudices on assumptions and stereotypes, maybe you could help break him of that and open his mind up a bit.
Skeeter is right about remarks such as "faggot", although I'm not quite sure how serious you are in your posts. And no, it's not 100%. There are actually guys out there who object to homosexuality in all forms. Some men have religious beliefs that they follow. Or find the concept just too weird, whether guy or girl.
