How do you feel about the fact that men can date younger women and that's fine but a

Sorry, this women mature earlier crap is pure fantasy, most women have an immature preconcepton of what maturity is. It's the old jumping on a band wagon philosophy. I have been with girls a lot younger than me and I haven't seen much diference between them and girls 20 years older. A change in their own perception of there own maturity is about it. Also the attitude that because they have had a child means they are therefore mature and more responsible by default, irrespective of any of the facts before everyone elses eyes..... all this one sex matures earlier than the other shit should have been thrown out in the 60's when women were fighting for equality. It seems a lot of women still want it both ways.

If you were truly so mature you would drop such an immature argument, start judging each other as individuals and forget the sexism that amounts to the same as racism or any other form of segregation. It seems very common that the women most guilty of such comments are also the type of women that go for dumb ars men in the first place... Very much like the blokes who like stereo typical women generally go for the stereo-type, all of which just justifies their shallow perception of the world...

I hate to be harsh, and maybe I am a little, but this is such a low level of debate.

 

date whoever you want. screw what people say or think as long as you know what is right inside.

 

The quarterback on my high school football team fell in love with his English teacher, who had a son older than him! She was told she could lose her job, so she resigned to stay with him. They are now married and have a child.

also...the woman I'm dating is seven years older than me. I like to look at young girls, but as far as dating them, I just don't have the patience.

 

yeah.. totally

 

First of all I wasn't attempting to argue or debate anything, all I did was state my opinion on a matter which I was asked for. If you want to debate it you go right ahead, but I've got a life.

Second of all I suggest you speak with some doctors and biologists because it is a proven fact that the female brain matures faster than the male brain during certain stages of life.

I'm not sure why you have become so defensive regarding my opinion, but I too have dated men who were younger than me and much older than me and I do not get along well with men who are younger than me. I did not say that every single man or every single woman is a particular way, only that in my experience that I have not found a man that is younger than me who is on my level. And it is not a perceived level. I'm at the point in my life where I'm ready to purchase a home and start a family, many many men who are only 5 years younger (and you have my permission to do a poll if you do not believe me) are simply not ready for that. And many who think they are really are not. Even I wasn't ready 5 years ago. Like I said there are stages that we all go through in life as far as experience and where that takes you and helps to form you into who you become. Someone who has a world of experience and knows who they are might not be able to have a fulfilling relationship with someone who has not yet come that far yet. There is nothing right or wrong about it. That is why I don't know why you are so upset with me.

I suppose the only thing you can base your arguements on though is telling me how immature I am and how stupid my boyfriend is, when you have never met either one of us. Need I say more to prove my point? Thanks for doing it for me.

And I don't think that saying that women mature faster then men do sets us back 45 years in the least bit. Just like saying a man cannot bare a child naturally does not mean that I have anything against men. It just is what it is, on a biological level. Do some research sweetie.

Again, it is my opinon that any sex can and will date whomever they like regardless of age. Whether or not it works out for them on whichever level they want it to is a different story altogether.

 

Super Grrl,
I see what you are saying, but no one forces women to do the things that they do. As much as we would love to blame society or the media, really women do have control over themselves. If you don't want to color your gray hair then don't. I honestly think that women with gray hair are very attractive and one day I hope mine looks like that. I also work in the beauty industry and I think that all of the wrinkle creams and botox and everything to make one appear younger is stupid. I wouldn't do it (of course I am 24 now). I mean my own mother never wore make up and never cared about getting older. She was just a happy go lucky person. You are as young as you feel and act. If you are running around like an uptight twit worrying about every last wrinkle, well then of course your man is going to find a younger woman who doesn't give a shit. I say grow old gracefully and love yourself for who you are, your parner will love you for having that confidence.

Men do it too, I keep seeing John Stamos on tv now because of his new show. He is like 46, there is no way his hair is not naturally gray. But he doesn't look any older than he was on Full House. Now what's up with that?

My boyfriend has always found older women to be more attractive. And I do see why. There really is a big difference between a 20 year old woman and a 40 year old woman.

And those magazines will write about anyone. They had been writing about the men doing it for years. It is just what we choose to see and how we interpret it to be a good or bad thing. Love isn't a bad thing if these people truely do find love (which in some cases I doubt, for either sex).

But you are absolutely right super grrl people do judge women more harshly for aging than they do men. I'm not sure how to change that.

 

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Well that's different, a grown person shouldn't dat a child. I feel that if you are 20 and the person is 17 than it's ok because both are probally in or near college. A 15 year old can't drive a car or stay out late. (I don't see how that could be much fun.) It's wrong for a guy or lady to date a child.

 

Mojo, if you can't tell the difference in people with a 20 yr difference in their age, I would suggest finding a different end of the gene pool to dive into. Of course there are many times the age difference works out fine too. Life and the whole process of living doesnt come with any hard fast rules and age differences can be fine, depends on the age difference and partly where it falls, what goals those people have at the time, ectectblahblahblah. Reality check, if i dated someone 20 years my junior it may not matter now, but a 50 year old man with a 70 year old woman is a mismatch in most cases, and even now, I have different goals in my life than most 26 year olds. 5-10 years aint that big of a deal though IMHO, otherwise I wouldn't be considering spending time with someone 8 1/2 years my junior at the present time.

 

Whoa, this is a touchy subject!

 

Ive never been involved with a woman more than a couple of years older than myself. When I was in my 20's I was hoping to meet someone 12-20 kears my senior but it never happened. So now Im married to a woman thats almost 8 years younger. Just the way things worked out I guess.

 

Does anyone know the movie Harold and Maud? One of my favourites.

 

If you really care about a person, you wouldn't give a damn what people say about you.

 

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I loved Harold and Maude. That was a great movie. Awesome car!

I think that people who are concerned about what others think need to live their lives by societal standards. Those who are not concerned with what others think need to live their lives by their own standards.

I was married to a man for 10 years that was 15 years older than me. And I've dated guys up to 6 years younger than me.

People are people. Some more mature and emotionally stable than others.

Find YOUR path.