Vibrator?

I need your help ladies! I just got a vibrator and my boyfriend's a little upset because I think he's intimidated by it. He thinks that "he's not good enough anymore." Which is completely not true, I just wanted one because I thought it would be fun! And it's not even intimidating to a guy, it's just this tiny little bunny thing. Anyway, any suggestions on how to make him feel better?

 

use it on him while your having sex

 

explain to him that while it's a different sensation than his hands or mouth, it doesn't involve the intimacy of the two of you being together. Doesn't even come close. Is he jealous of your fingers? Feel like he's not good enough because you can bring yourself to orgasm with out him (regardless of vibrator or fingers). That's just silly!

and yeah, using the vibe on him might help, but you gotta explain/talk about it a little firsrt.

 

Hmmm... Well, I could say "You shoulda prepared him beforehand", but I think you've learned that lesson.

Of course he is intimidated. You are saying that his dick alone isn't enough for you, that you need more. That can be quite a blow to a guy. Their self-esteems are STRONGLY attached to their penises.

I would suggest you say something along the lines of "I got it for US babe. For BOTH OF US to use". And encourage him to use it on you as much as possible (and use it on him if he will allow you to). And make CERTAIN that you stroke his ego even more than you already do, way more and remind him often of how much better you like him than that "silly old piece of plastic that I really don't know why I bothered buying when I have you, sweetheart".

Much luck to you!

 

toys bring a different level of fun into the relationship.

 

Thanks for all of your responses! So for a little update: last night, we used it together, and HE is the one that wanted to bring it out! Who knew? It was lots of fun, thanks for the advice Applespark! And you're right, toys do bring a different level of fun into the relationship, especially if you're already having great sex...

 

"Oh cold girating piece of plastic, how I do love you!"

 

Moving thread to Sex and Love, where it will get the attention it needs......

 

My b/f actually had bought me a vibrator, but then i lost it.

 

what a pity... When I was at the store, the lady was trying to show me some partner one that goes over the guy's dick and everything.... I was like um... this is my first time getting anything like this.... do you think you can just show me the basics? haha I don't really think that all that is needed to have a good time!