wat does sex have to do with love???

i hate it when people think just because you love somone you have to give your self right away thats so gay if they really did love you they would respect you and wait until your both ready to expirence this wounderful beautiful thing.

 

Not all people think that love comes with an immediate physical demand. As a matter of fact, I am the type of person who would rather just wait until the time is right for us both as opposed to jumping into something, having a bad experience, then immediately feeling stupid because I didn't invest the time to look any further than her body.

If you are speaking of the forum 'mixture' the title settles it---Discussing Love and Sex in their many manifestations.

 

sex can be a great expression of love when you're ready. And yes, you shoudl be respected at all times.

how about you not be a hypocrite and respect other people by not saying "that's so gay"

that's just as disrespectful in my opinion. I hate it when people use that word in a negative way.

 

If they really loved you they wouldnt want you to do something you werent ready for!

 

"If they really loved you they wouldnt want you to do something you werent ready for!"

i guess the flip side is if you really love some one, then you should want to make them happy...

Love and Sex are funny things

 

this is a touchy subject.. peoples views of love and sex are different...
If you dont want to have sex than dont, case closed problem solved.. if your boyfriend leaves cause of it, good then he wasnt someone who cared in the first place..

 

PERSONALLY, I think lust has more to do with sex than love. Sex usually happens out of passion. However, yes, for two people in love sex can be very meaningful... more than just passion and lust, obviously.
But of course, sex should never feel like an obligation.

 

I love my boyfriend very much and we don't have sex because he isn't ready yet. I respect his decision and there's no way I'd leave him because he doesn't put out. Also, the fact that he won't sleep with me doesn't mean he loves me any less.

 

Sex has nothing to do with love. Many teenage girls let their boyfriends sleep with them because they fear their boyfriends will leave them if they don't have sex with them. After they have sex for awhile 9 out of 10 times the boys leave. Sex is not an expression of love. Rape is an assertion of power.

 

Love has nothing to do with sex, nothing at all. What I have found is that some guys and gals uses the word to make their partner feel guilty when they want to get their own selfish way. For example they will say "i you love me you will sleep with me" or "fi you love me you will buy me this or that." One does not have to do token gestures to prove love. But then I must say I have no problem with sex and I do feel better asking for it without attaching the guilt trip.

 

[UQOTE=satchmo]Love has nothing to do with sex, nothing at all. What I have found is that some guys and gals uses the word to make their partner feel guilty when they want to get their own selfish way. For example they will say "if you love me you will sleep with me" or "if you love me you will buy me this or that." One does not have to do token gestures to prove love. But then I must say I have no problem at all with sex but I do feel better asking for it without attaching the guilt trip. I also think most persons don't even have any definition for the word love. So when they say "if you love me..." they themselves don't truly understand what they are saying and tend to cheaper the whole concept of love. One should remember that love is primarily a Christian concept and if so the definition must be found in the bible {1 Corinthians 13 to be precise}. [/QUOTE]

 

I know all about love, and I did not read what 1 Corinthians 13 says.

 

I think you have have sex without love and love without sex, but the two can be connected quite nicely and when they are, less problems arise.

 

the best sex ive had is the sex ive had with someone i was in love with...it just seems more pure and special and ya im corny...but dont get me wrong just a good fuck with someone could give a shit less about is cool to sometimes lol.

 

I see where you're comin from, but I disagree.....sex is an expression of passion. The tricky bit is that that passion can either come from love or lust. In the end though, love and lust shouldnt be measured by statistics, it's a connection between people, in love or not, and that should never be judged by a steriotype or statistics, each case is individual....but to me, passion from love is so much more meaningful......

 

Being pedantic here, but isn't rape a form of sex?

Is this classed as passion?

 

i never could figure out why sex was such a big deal anyway. i love it. it's awesome. but unless you're breaking up a family or relationship, who cares who you're fucking and when? i think people blow up the virginity loss way too much.

 

In my opinion, making love is essential in a relationship. I could not be with some one who didn't want to make love to me. That is probably due to my bisexuality and, as Skiiy so pensively mentioned, that's so GAY. Sex is an individual thing. It matters to me. I can't feel love without immersive physical affection, I never have been able to. Maybe your boyfriend is just different from you. You can't change him. You would both be better off if you found someone who shared your opinion.

 

yep. very true. i find myself incapable of having a lasting relationship without the closeness of intercourse.

 

I agree! Sex can be an expression of love, but not always. I know when I make love to my boyfriend it will be an expression of our feelings. I do wish we were having sex, but I still love him and I know he loves me (it's just that he hasn't done it with anyone yet).