Hey.. I've noticed that I have a bit of an issue with eye contact during sex. I can look my partner in the eye for a quick moment, then feel weird and have to look away, or keep my eyes closed. It's like it's too corny or something.. I dunno what it is, but I just can't maintain any kind of intense eye contact whilst in the act. Am I the only one????
This could be two things, IMHO-- 1) you just don't like to look at your partner while having sex, which is completely fine, or 2) perhaps you are not as into your partner as you would like to be, causing the feeling of not wanting to look deeply into his eyes while you are satisfying each other....
I don't stare at my partner during sex either. I get too focused on the sensation of it all, I have to close my eyes.
No, you're not alone. I feel odd doing it too. I don't know why really, but I'm not really comfy with it. My husband will stare right into my eyes sometimes during the act, and he says it's because he loves me so much and thinks I'm so beautiful. I love him too and I think he's absolutely beautiful, but looking into his eyes during the act just makes me feel self-conscious. *lol*
I couldnt make eye contact with all my boyfriends except the one im with now... I fell a deep connection to him... But It is new territory for me....
hmm interesting, thanks guys. And I'm relieved to know I"m not the only one. I do love my partner, and am very attracted to him, so that's not the issue. I guess it's just one of those strange inexplicable things. When I do try and look into his eyes during sex, I almost want to laugh.. which is why I tend to look away or close my eyes! Hippychickmommy, I'm the same, I like to look at him afterward while snuggling up & kissing him etc. Maybe it's the whole thing about guys being stimulated by visuals, whereas women are more "feeling/sensation" based?? hmmm. Or maybe the intensity of the situation freaks me out a bit?? Lots to ponder.
Then DO look into his eyes, and DO laugh! I think that your reaction is because you are realizing, "Hey, we're actually doing this; we're actually having sex!" Sometimes I have had that kind of internal feeling, like wonderment, going, "OMG I've wanted this for so long, I can't believe it's actually happening!" and I get a kind of giddy feeling. It's kind of fun, and funny. So maybe if you do look into your boyfriend's eyes and you start to giggle or something, you could just both laugh about it and you could explain to him that you're just experiencing a reaction that is the overflowing of your excitement at being with him and having sex. It really is a major thing for us to experience biologically and psychologically. It's not surprising, therefore, that our emotions want to bubble up out of us. Laughter is how that is happening for you -- or how it wants to happen, anyway. So let it! Ding ding ding! YEP! -Jeffrey
I have noticed that I couldn't focus on certain things while masterbating. I can shut my eyes though, maybe you can't because you are with another person. I guess it isin't that big of a deal, while your having sex just look away.
I really have eye contact issues. When I stare into my boyfriend's eyes, I start thinking about how weird the eyeball actually is and totally zone out. It's weird. Plus, eye contact with anyone really in general makes me uncomfortable, so I always look at their foreheads when I'm talking to someone else. When I'm with my boyfriend, I give him little glances up for a second before closing my eyes, especially when i have my chin on his chest, and he loves it. Apparently I'm really cute when I'm shy.
Ha ha, that's funny SilverClover. I tend to get distracted too, if I begin focusing on something else. peacefuljeffrey, thanks for your reply. I guess laughter is an outburst of joy really, so you could be onto something there. It is a lot of fun, and a wonderful expression of intimacy, after all, as you pointed out. I might have to try and experiment with all this a bit, next time.
