I need love!

My boyfriend hates to have his hands dirty and so he won't finger me. He also won't perform oral sex even though I give him head. How can I persuade him to help me out a little!

 

Stop giving him head. I guess that isn't really good advice, but it's probably what I would do.

One guy I was with liked using a vibrator on me....It was a little weird at first, but then it was cool....but then again I could do that myself.

He needs to make sure you are being taken care of though...otherwise cut him off.

 

Geez, talk about unfair! He's worried about getting his hands dirty? What the hell!? It's not dirty down there unless you're not taking care of yourself! If it's so dirty, then he shouldn't be sticking his penis in there either.

I'm sorry, but that's ignorant!

 

These two ladies^^^^are right on. Why are you giving him head if he thinks your body is dirty?? Ugh. Sorry, that's just selfish of him. Does he have some kind of hangup about women's bodies?

 

You should never be coerced into doing something that cant be reciprocated. Cut him off and stick to the old boring missionary until he straightens up!

 

There Can Be No Doubt That Your Boyfriend Is Indeed Gay
He lets you give him head because he can close his eyes and pretend you are a Peurto Rican boy named Julio.

 

eheeehhe.... sorry, everyone saying he's gay is kinda funny

anyways, yes, stop going down on him. Ask him why he really doesn't like fingering you or performing oral you. It's not dirty down there -AT ALL-, christ a mouth as more bacteria and potentially harmful things than a pussy ever will. If he's truly worried, tell him to buy latex gloves, dental dams and lube (hey some people are OC when it comes to cleanliness, maybe that's the problem)

or else you could dump him and find a great guy who's willing to please you as much as you please him.

 

Well, for all of those who claim my boyfriend is gay.... I am thinking that is a really big no! We've been together for nearly 2 years ... so, yeah.

He won't give me oral not because he thinks the body of a woman is dirty but because he has never done it before. I just wondered if anyone knew how I could reassure him that he's not going to mess up horribly on his first try. Now, the fingering thing is because he doesnt like to have anything on his hands.... he can't even stand to put lotion on them.

 

Thanks for the advice on the gloves and dental dams!

 

He is definitely gay

 

If you already have a bunch of condoms or can get them for cheaper than dental dams, you can cut off the tip and slice up one slide, and turn it into a rectangle... latex dental dam! One use only them though... and probably best to get the non-lubricated kind since, well, lube can taste pretty nasty sometimes.

 

What the hell?

 

quote: Well, for all of those who claim my boyfriend is gay.... I am thinking that is a really big no! We've been together for 2 years ... so, yeah.

Some men are married for years before they come out of the closet.....

it is impossible this man is heterosexual....almost sounds impossible that he is gay too, maybe he is a-sexual or perhaps non-human.

I understand not wanting to peform oral sex, but being too squeamish to finger you?! Thats just too much, tell him seamonster66 said so.

 

Maybe she is just too butt ass ugly for him to get excited about. I dunno. Just a constructive thought.

 

You've been with him for two years and he still won't try to please you in any way? This is wrong. I dated a guy for 2 years when I was younger and he was very selfish sexually (he actually did turn out to be gay, but that is besides the point because I don't think your boyfriend is gay). He would never call it selfish though... much like your man... If he is bothered by having anything on his hands, he should see a therapist. If he won't go down on you because he never has before, he should either "take the plunge" or get outta Dodge.

Don't let his insecurities keep ruining your sexual pleasure. Right now, you've been doing (and probably still for awhile) the nice woman thing and saying to yourself that you don't really CARE if he does those things because you like him (or love him) so much. I can guarantee that it WILL matter down the line or once you break up. You will regret not getting this straightened out now while there is still time and the patterns of bahavior aren't permanent.

Sorry, I'm ranting on & on... but I think if you are REALLY attracted to someone & you REALLY care about their feelings you should be happy to do just about anything for them (unless is compromises your values or mores) to give them pleasure.

Don't sell yourself short. Teach him now how to be good in bed and he'll thank you for a lifetime.

 

Thanks very much sumtinbuggy.I wasn't aware that by posting something asking for advice I would be subjecting myself to harsh personal comments.

 

Aww, now come on there sumtinbuggy. That was really mean and unneccesary!

 

The point of this post was not to determine the sexuality of my boyfriend or my level of physical attractivness. I'm sorry if I led anyone to believe that I was asking for these types of responses. I thank everyone who gave me good advice and I would like for this thread to die off now. Thank you.

 

What the H*ll!!! ? Giving Oral and manual is half the fun!

 

If he's not giving you oral because he's unsure, tell him to just take it slow and tell him that you'll help him by letting him know what feels good and what doesn't. He's not going to master it overnight, but being afraid to try is missing out on something great.