ok, let me get you lovey ladies opinions

What would have happened if he said it was a problem...you would still want to do it. I generally think that if you really want to be sexual with a person other than someone you are in a serious relationship with that you should end it...almost no relationships can survive being open, or having more than 2 people in them.

 

I would have gladly not had a sexual experience with her. My intent is not to hurt Erik. I'm struggling with this so bad because I strive ot be a faithful person. When it was first brought up, I kept asking, are you sure, are you sure?

It was only a fun time thing. To make each other feel good. It was sex, not intimacy if you can understand that.

I enjoyed it, but I never would have had a problem turning htem down to respect Erik. I DO care. I just didn't know I was supposed to about that, from everything that was said before.

 

haha yea man in that case you call it cheating if someone is with another person other than the one they're in a relationship. if its not cheating its not a relationship meant to be serious between two people only...then its just called a 'fling' or something along those lines. and flings don't last long. they end or just grow into a relationship between two people and two people only.

 

so I cheated, but I've been told it wasn't cheating and it was ok.

So I guess I'm stuck feeling like shit for thinking he was being honest. I KNOW that can be a difficlut thing to deal with. Which is why I asked him so much before we broke up.

 

the more posts i read of yours, the more i realize just how judgmental and self-righteous you are. you're not always right. get over yourself, michael.