So I hav been with this girl for almost a year now. We have had our bad times but hav gotten through them. I always hav surprises for her, example valentines day, had her over watched her favorite movie and showred her with her favorite candy, chocolate, flowers, etc. then served her, her favorties dish that I prepared myself at a canbdle lit table for two in my basement. Just last friday, her cat got hit by a car, so I buy her a cute little kitten and surprise her with it. We're always happy together. But recently it seems we jsut cant get along for more thatn a few days without having an arguement about something. I hate it. It seems like she picks out some small little flaw that I made and obsesses over it. I hate it. We've been together for a while, and personaly I'm about ready to throw in the towel. What do you guys think?
Im not guy.... but your only 14 by what ur profile says....Just go w/the flow what ever happens happens dont fret and ever thing will be all right!!
ok, First you're too young to be in a relationship. By about 14 years. Wear condoms, don't get anyone pregnant, and come back in 2020 and we can talk.
awww, you guys...that's kinda harsh. it sounds like you guys have had a sweet relationship together, but things are wearing down and it seems to be drawing to an end. relationships at that age rarely even last a couple of months let alone a year, so if you decide to break up, it won't be the end of the world. do what you feel is right it'll be okay, and moving on will be easier than you think! plus, you'll always have the memories to cherish.
How can you be so ignorant to judge th entire thing by the fact that I'm 14. It might not be that big of a deal I mean yes I realize that, I have my whole life ahead of my and all that and that it really wont matter in a couple of months but still thats really stupid that you just completely ignore the entire deal because I'm 14.
have you talked to her? Have you tried saying I feel [insert feeling here, such as upset, helpless] when you [insert action, such as pick out all my flaws and create arguments]. When you frame it that way instead of 'you irritate me' or whatever, you own your feelings and she won't feel accused, and that way perhaps she can get on with understanding your point of view and you guys can grow together.
Hmm you're doing a lot of things for her, but what about you? Does she give you the same kind of attention you give her? If not, it sounds like you're in an unequal relationship...that's never good.
If they were your girlfriend wouldn't that mean they liked you? I'm confused... I agree in 90% of the cases. There are exceptions.
People are different, you know. And to tell you the truth, I would be much obliged if you eased off of his ass about the situation, as he was only looking for advice just as many others tend to in this thing we call the love and sex forum. Honestly, look into yourself and see that if his age wasn't posted, you would have given a much different answer. To tell you the truth, I know a few people in their forties and fifties were together since the seventh grade, though you can't always standardize and generalize every fucking soul. That's what's so damn wrong with the modern, corporate, and Conservative United States of America. Not only that, but we're going worldwide YAY!!!! Mass-production, corporations, broad generalizations, stereotypicalities, and standardization... If the current majority, in general, had any lick of logic in their pathetic little skulls they would think twice about what they say. Generally, I agree, most people at a young age are not ready for anything, which is why I've stayed out of considering a serious relationship for the most part, you know. But if you look at it this way, the fact that he's been with her for a year and he's caring and understanding shows a lot to me when most people who are my age are lucky if they understand what they're doing. On top of that, I give most people two weeks to a month, as far as my age goes. Then again, my grandparents were together since they were thirteen till the day my grandfather died... Besides, how in the hell do you know she "picks him apart"... and why is it any of your business to begin with. He didn't ask to be graded or criticized on his quality control or summat. PEOPLE HAVE ARGUMENTS, hell, my parents argue every day... Jesus fucking Christ man. I can tell when someone is putting down a fourteen year old because they have nothing else better to do. Go play some Yahtzee and cut him some fucking slack. Thanksies!!!1!1!!!!!!111111one!!!11lolz kewl.. I'm fivteen,.
Orsino ur fucking cool, but now they're just gonna say that the only reason you said that is because your young too. But oh well, there is widespread prejudice against kids/children/teenagers.
While age is KINDA a factor in my advice, it's not saying that you are young and don't know anything. You obviously know that things aren't working, but you don't know what to do. You are young, and you're spending a lot of time and energy trying to make a relationship work that isn't. I would talk to her first, but why put so much into a relationship that produces arguements and stress all the time? It's not that you aren't a great boyfriend. And she's probably a cool girl too. You sound really sweet. But sometimes after a while, people just get sick of each other. Last weekend i had to tell my live-in boyfriend of 2 1/2 years that we needed a break and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Ugh, I still feel liek crap thinking about it. It's not that I don't love him, or he doesn't love me, but when you're young it's hard to be in a steady relationship, and it's ok to feel that way. It's ok to not want to be so serious at your age. Hell, I broke things off because at MY age I was sick of things being so serious. Talk with her, try a drastic change, anything you can think of that's different, to save the relationship, but be real and honest with yourself and her and if it's just not working, you're only causing yourself stress. What do you guys fight about? Do you mind giving an example of an arguement?
I just wanted to add that nothing needs to be wrong for you to make a change. If you feel that it's time to end the relationship, then trust yourself. I'm sure you can think of justifications, reasons and things that are 'wrong,' but that isn't necessary. If you feel it's time to go, you have something better coming.
