I hate my mother

And I don't mean because I'm mad at her at the moment. This is a long term thing. Even when we are 'getting along' I still hold a strong hatred for her deep down inside.

I honestly think she has mental problems and she says really creul things to me.

I'll never forget when I said I wanted to got to college she laughed in my face

wtf

 

WOW! Sounds like she isn't supportive at all!
My mother and I don't get along at all either. So I just decided it would be better to just move out and away from her. So I graduated High School when I was 16, moved to college (1 state away) and then moved half way across the country for my job. In the end, we have a much better relationship now. We only talk about once a month, but we talk civil now that we don't have to deal with eachother every day.
Good luck girl! Stay strong!

 

What else does you'r mom say? Is that why you weren't in school?

 

wow, you don't need that. I sincerly hope that you get out of that situation unharmed physically, or mentally. Goodluck to you and I hope you get away soon.

 

My mother is the same way. I just think some people just shouldn't reproduce. My mother has mental probs too... but try getting her to admit it! Don't worry about hating your mom. I hated mins for years. I left home when I was 17 and have never been back except for overnight Christmas visits. She came to my wedding to tell me "Don't worry. You can always get divorced".

Never feel guilty for hating her. It's not your problem, it's her's. If you need to talk to someone you can always PM me. Hang in there.

 

Wow I wonder what her relationship with her mom was like. Do you want to improve your relationship with her? I hope you have supportive friends, because sometimes it is hard to believe what our parents tell us, even if it is more on a subconcious level.
Yeah.. so you better go to college and when you've got a degree or two in your resume you can show her and feel smug you can do it, babe.

 

That is disgusting. How could a mother say that to her daughter?

But yeah, I don't get along too well with mine, either. Most of my life was either spent fighting with her, avoiding her, or finding some other place to live cuz she kept kicking me out. I moved out when I was 17, too. I wish that I could have stayed and finished high school, but the way things were when I left...I never would have been able to finish anyway...and I'm so close too
It all imroved when I moved, though. We still fight, but this time I have the freedom to stand up for myself and not get reprimanded for it.

I don't know what to really tell you to do though, Peace Attack, other than just go to college, and prove how happy you are.....but who knows if that'll work.... basically, the only thing that remotely works for me is saying that i don't judge every single little move that she makes or thing she wants to do. It doesn't work that well, but it's better than fighting, I guess.

 

I wish people wouldn't say they hate their parents...that's terrible. Your mothers all brought you into this world.

My mom had drug problems and she was moody and unstable. Not to mention she was emotionally abusive. HOWEVER...I have NEVER EVER said I hated my mom. That's disrespectful and ungreatful.

Bottom line is...my mom passed away five years ago and I'd give anything to have her back...even though she put me in a lot of pain growing up. There is no one that can take the place of your biological mother. How dare you all talk bad about women that brought you into this world. Kharma is a bitch...and if you sit here and say you hate your parents...your kids will hate you.

You people make me sick.

 

Personally, I have great relationships with all my parents (biological & step).

However, I realize that I was very lucky. Some people don't have 1 single parent they can look up to.

But to say that to someone in a situation that's NOT YOUR SITUATION, well, shows how much you have to learn.

Granted, most people who bitch about their parents are whining, little kids who aren't getting their way. But, just because someone is biologically related to another does not mean that they can't be a horrible person.

By chance, did you hear about the mother in Florida who was prostituting out one daughter for warm showers (for the mom) and also tried to trade another daughter for a car. How about those poor girls? How the fuck can you expect them to have anything but hate for their mother?

Situations are different for everybody. Before you attack someone for expressing their views, make damn sure you have an idea of what they have gone through to come to that view.

 

I agree with phillyrp. Just because two people had sex and made a child doesn't always mean that they're fit to be a parent. If they're mentally, physically, emotionally abusive why should they still recieve the same respect that other moms and dads out there work their asses off for?

 

As a matter of fact, I DO know what it's like to have a mother that wasn't the best of mothers...and you know what? I think every parent does the best they can. And I DO think a lot of the kids in here that complain about their parents are just a bunch of ungrateful whiners.

Obviously none of you know what it's like to lose a parent. If you did, you'd probably feel the same why I do. But no one knows what they have until it's gone...one day you all will find out and I hope you all get struck down by whatever higher being is out there because you said such terrible things about a person that brought you into this world.

 

my mom is a bitc, but i still love her.

i just hate when she tells me im not fat, but i need to loose 10-20 lbs if i wwant to be an actress. and then she says, amanda why arent you eating?

 

Hating your mother isn't right. My frist memory of my mom is her telling me I looked ugly and things only got worse from there, I'm the youngest of two and my mom made no secret of the fact she loved my sister and not me. Well I grew use to it and then my sis went away to college, durring her first year away I hardly saw my mom then my sis comes home for a break and mom's everywhere, we take my sis back to school and that the last I hear of her until my sis begs me to come to Christmas eve with mom well I might as well have not gone my sis was in the back seat of the car and she got all the atention my mom never even said hi to me. Thats the last I ever saw or hear from her again that was ten years now. It took alot for me to relize that she has major issues and I wasn't to blame for our falling out I was 16 then and I'm not the parent in this relationship, My mom has alot she needs to fix in herself befor I'll ever except her back in my life but I will never hate her All the pain she causes me she gave me life and I love her unconditianly.

(Note: My dad raised us cause my mom was to much of an achoholic to take care of two little kids. He has us since I was three. Now thats a real MAN taking respociablity for two little girls when your 25 in the early 80's that was never hear of. )
Just know what ever your mom does to you one of you needs to forgive Like the Dalai Lama says "Develop compassion for your enemies, that is genuine compassion. Limited compassion cannot produce this altruism."

 

Amen, mama.

Amen to that.

 

I have forgiven my mother for all of it. I have forgiven her for beating me with a freakin' tap shoe. I have forgiven her for leaving me in the hospital with cancer. Don't worry..it's forgiven.

Just because I have forgiven her doesn't mean that I have to put myself in the line of fire again. It has taken me many many years of work with professionals and on my own to learn that loving my mother after everything that has happened is okay... and that none of what happened as a child was my fault.

And I never said that I hate my mother. I said that I USED to hate my mother. And I don't think there is anything wrong with hating her for most of my teens.... we had an incrediably abusive love/hate relationship. The only reason I stayed as long as I did is because of my young sisters. They needed someone to love them.

Please keep in mind that this thread was originally posted by a 16yr old who needs support, not judgement.

 

Originally Posted by mistkgarden922

Just know what ever your mom does to you one of you needs to forgive Like the Dalai Lama says "Develop compassion for your enemies, that is genuine compassion. Limited compassion cannot produce this altruism."

 

I feel really guilty for posting that.

I love my mom, It's just we get into huge fights and it all comes out. Thats when she says mean things.

I could have a worse mother, it could be alot worse.

 

it is good to hear that you actually love your mom, just try not to expect so much from her, its possible that your mom sux enough to hate her. motherhood dosent make a person perfect. if she's not supportive of you wanting college, then tahats a good sign somethins wrong with her. hey whatever dont kill you will make you stronger. you may end up better off then most people who are spolied by there moms, if you play your cards right.

 

mike is gonna respond soon, i can feel it

edit: thats ^ what you get for doing laundry than coming bak and pushing the post button...oh well, it was relevent when I wrote it

Anywho, all teens sorta hate their mom, its something you grow out of. Its just your reach for independence.

 

my grandmothe is always holding everyone back so she can be better than everyone else. But we deal with her because i know that she must hurt. I dont let her get to me. She needs someone in life even when she disses you at times. In a way i think you become a better person by just careing about her.
Dont let her put you down. It just makes everything bad. Just hold her hand and try your hardedst to love her and suprise her at what you can do. When people act they way your mother is i think it means that deep down they hurt for many reasons and sometimes they don't even know the do. It will be ok.