How to Make Love for the First Time

Im a 23yr old male virgin. I am with a girl at the moment, we have a great connection and are relaxed together. We have played around in my bed together on a few occassions. Been naked and touched each other, making each other orgasm etc

In the past she has had issues with her bf regarding making love, which means she may be equally nervous about us doing the deed+has to be v relazed. We have both stated that we would love to make love together at some stage.

Ive touched her no problem (hand n fingers rubbin her clit), but never given her oral, although she has on me. And has never asked me to do it, she knows im a virgin and getting to the stage we are at now has always asked if im ok with what we are doing.

On one occassion she failed to make me orgasm and I lost my erection which i knew she was down about but explained why I thought it had happened at that it wasnt her fault, id held myself back on a few occassions, so put it down to being greedy. Another time i was losing it and she wanted me to help, i myself struggled to get back up to the point where it would happen and let her finish it for me.

For some reason ive found that i have never reached my full size/erection, this contributed towards problems with me climaxing maybe. And so i think that intercourse would be a problem unless I got to that stage, feel a bit reluctant to try n get it to happen, as it may me make her feel inadequate, she already said sorry for not being good, but i told her it wasnt true and reassured her, n made excuses for myself.

I really would love to make love with her, seeing as i have never initiated it, am not sure how to go about it. If i knew the best build up to it, id know then i could ask her if she would like us to make love

What to do??

If she pleasures me, strokes/blowjobs etc, should I cum, if i think we are intending to have full sex that day?? Or should I just try to keep my erection and well get protection and try intercourse together.
Also touching and playing with her. Is it best to get her close to orgasm or just known she is enjoying it alot and then try intercourse or make her orgasm first? ( so that both of us havent climaxed before intercourse?
With my erection trouble (above) I think if i do ejaculate, then it will be difficult to get a full erection soon afterwards to attempt intercourse

Can anyone give me some advice

Lee

 

get a book on how to please a girl-read it and when youre comftrable and confident take her on a trip for the weekend and initiate it. i think youre just lacking confidence

 

I don't understand why do u lose erection? Are you thinking about other things while doing it or maybe you have problems and can't concentrate because of worring about it?
My advice: go on and take initiate. I am sure you gf will be bored after several time and want more than just fingers..
Trust yourself, Good luck

 

I'd say facililtate an orgasm for her before intercourse. Orgasms are always good and most gals can have quite a few in a small period of time. Also, start performing oral on her - if she's doing it for you, you should do it for her (IMHO at least.. tit for tat)

As for orgasming if you're plannign sex later.... does she know you're planning sex later? Because if she isn't expecting it to go further than oral that day and you aren't cumming, she's going to feel disappointed with herself and her ability to pleasure you. TALK TO HER about it first, don't just refuse to orgasm in her mouth and then try to fuck her. Relationships are about COMMUNICATION, communicate with the gal!

 

Lee,

What a *wonderful* situation for you... to be able to share this with someone you really care about!

I'd just emphasize what ihmurria said: COMMUNICATION. TALK to her about it! At nearly twice your age, I'm fairly new to these kind of games, but I don't think there are any absolute rules... Just take your time and work it out between yourselves.

Also, be SURE to go get some condoms! Get them NOW!!! Go to a store across town and late at night if necessary, but be sure to get a couple of boxes. Waste a few of them by practicing with them on your own, before you get back together. No, they are NOT much fun, but you won't have any control early on, so wear 'em anyway.

If you are not VERY careful in this area, you could be suddenly and unexpectedly transformed into a totally new kind of creature by these experiences... a creature called "Daddy!"

Fear or stress can *easily* derail a guy's ...ahem... ability, but at your age, you should be able to do anything you want within about a half an hour. Just remember that those little fishes keep swimming for a long time, so be careful what you do with parts where they've been.

Good Luck!

 

Don't masturbate.

Don't watch porn.
Have as little sex as possible, focus on relationship and other stuff instead.

Have sex first week after her periods with no protection.

 

i think its great that your 23 and still a vrigin

 

Are you just thinking too much about wether or not you're going to have sex with her while she's giving you blow jobs? Cuz that'll get rid of the erection like poof. Just relax and enjoy it. Talk to her about when you two would like to have sex, but when it comes time to actually get physical, just do what comes natural. Over thinking ruins everything. If you guys have sex, then you have sex, if you don't, you don't. There;s times when my boyfriend and I just like to get eachother off, and that's it. No intercourse at all.
Oh, and I also agree that you should start to give her oral sex. It doesn't matetr if she doesn't ask for it. Just doing it can show that you care about her pleasure, too.

 

I agree with the first 3 things, but USE PROTECTION...ESPECIALLY then. The first 2 or so weeks after a girl's period are some of the easiest times to get pregnant. She ovulates 2 weeks or so after her period, which is when her body releases the egg waiting to be fertilized. Even if you have sex the week before, sperm can live in a girl's body for about a week, and still make you a daddy. so wrap your little buddy!

 

Um...why...?

 

Masturbating's great...porn is fun...sex is fucking beautiful, so have as much of it as you want/is possible. Use protection.

As far as your problem goes, if you intend on having sex with your girlfriend, don't get off beforehand 'cause it'll make it harder to get an erection afterwards. A nice thing to do is to have her go down on you, get you really hard with the oral, and you the same with her (oral, fingering, whatever...), and then with you both really wanting it...fuck her.

 

I agree that it's good that you keep yourself clean and waited till you were older and more mature/fresh to appreicate sex.

And about my advice, just trust me and do it. Don't listen to some kid from new york if you really want to make it work.

 

Well that's your opinion and that's fine. If it's his own personal choice to wait, then that's fine. But there's nothing wrong with experiencing sex at a younger age if you're ready. And (I'm assuming you were addressing me?)...as far as me being "some kid" from New York...it's not like I'm a 14-year-old trying to give advice here. And about me being from NY...ok...what does that have to do with anything?