Question for parents and disciplining there kids in front of friends

I was at my friends house and we eventualy got to idea of smoking some weed, afterwards we lit some candles and incenses to change the smell.

As we lit the candles my friends dad came down stairs and said i know what you guys are up to and all that stuff, he started to disipline my friend, but not me i thought he whould of said something like do you parents know what your up to kinda thing.

my question is i don't get it i thought he whould of said something to me.

i don't know was he trying to put on that father role in front of me, so i whouldn't think he's soft on disipline???

or is it that we are both turning 19 soon and he consider us both adult???
i alread 19 but my friend turns 19 soon

my other question is i'm still welcomed there??? i'm sorta suspisious now because he didn't do anything to me???

 

Even though he was talking to his child he was talking to you as well. He probably figured speaking to directly would have brought some sort of negative comment from you and his child and then the issue would have been lost. I'll bet he glanced at you a few times though didn't he? He also probably figured that his child should have known better than to smoke when his parents were right upstairs. You are 19 years old, you should be old enough and responsible enough to have some respect for people in their own homes. If your friend's parents don't smoke in their house or in front of you then you and your friend shouldn't either. He wasn't trying to put on any kind of show in front of you at all, but he was trying to stress the point that he didn't appreciate what the two of you did in his house, without his permission or knowledge.

Weed doesn't only smell AFTER you smoke it, it also smells WHILE you are smoking it. Light the candles and the incense BEFORE you smoke if you're going to do it.

 

You're 18 and 19 years old? I understand why your friend's dad said what he did, and the way that he did it. What I don't understand is, why do you, two legal adults, need to be disciplined? Don't take this the wrong way, either. I am not saying that he shouldn't have told your friend that you (two) know better than to smoke in his house. I think the two of you should act like adults and not have to be told, and especially not EXPECT to be disciplined like children.


I mean, doing it and being told once is one thing. But now you know how he wants things at his house. And you're grown-ups. take responsibility for your actions and don't expect adults to discipline you.

 

Your freind is still living in his dad's home.

He then, still taking on the "child's role."

You were doing something in his father's house that the father did not allow or approve of.

He has every right to "play the father role" on both of you.

Don't like it? Get your own place.

I have an 18 year old. She and her BF are NOT allowed to smoke weed,drink or cigarettes in my home. Period. (FTR, she doesn't smoke or drink, but if she did, it would not be allowed in my house.)

OMG, I really sounded like a parent there, didn't I? LOL.

 

19 years old and smoking pot in your friends parents basement. Surprised he didn't kick both of your asses for not being out getting a job