ok guys, my best friend doesnt know who to turn to except for me, and i dont know how to help her, so im turning to you... heres the story: my friend dated this boy for only like 6 months, then she foudn o ut he had cheated on her a while back with 2 girls in one night, and she dumped him for it.. it was a pretyt ugly breakup between her and him and the 2 girls.... now the boy is saying he needs her more than anything, and hes saying hes suicidal. she doesnt know how to react peraonally, i never liked the guy...hes depressing, and he needs alot of emotional help, and he was a jerk to her during their relationship. what do i tell my friend? i feel like shes being brought down because of him, but i dont want to just tell her to ignore him, and watch him crumble to pieces??
Most suicide threats (threats especially without the attempting) are just a call for attention, they aren't an actual plan. If he couldn't respect her as a person, why should she have to deal with his emotional garbage? I'm sorry, but using the threat of suicide as an attempt to get back with a person is rude, disrespectful and just goddawful (the emotional damage it can do to the other person is ridiculous). I'd tell her to stay the fuck away from him, and just not talk to him anymore if at all humanly possible.
If he's that stupid...I say fuck him, let him kill himself. That guy obviously has some mental issues. Tell your friend to stay away from him and don't listen to ANYTHING he has to say.
Tell her to tell him to grow up. No one "needs" anyone else to live a happpy fulfilling life. If he continues the threats, go tell a teacher or counselor. They'll ask him so many questions an make him so miserable he'll never be that dramatic to get attention again. Or maybe he will, but at least he'll do it to some other girl. I highly doubt he is really suicidal. HE CHEATED. There is no reason to trust anything that comes out of his mouth. But, if he IS really depressed and suicidal, she doesn't need to take responsibility for that either. That is his problem and she will be miserable taking on some crazy psycho as a boyfriend. I would guess its all a big trick. Tell her to tell him she doesn't need some immature, unfaithful psycho and see how he reacts. If he seems genuinely upset, tell someone. If not, just walk away.
She should not be with him... Tell her hes suicidal is him palying head games with her... If he really is suicadial he needs help... not a girlfriend... She should stay away from him....
dude guys, im just pounding all the words your saying in her head... like i said, ive always thought the guy was a nut case...it bugs me to see her struggling because of him. thank ya ladies and gentlemen!
Threatening to commit suicide if someone doesn't stay with you is a sign of emotional abuse, he could be serious but that is not her problem or responsibility, more than likely he is being manipulative and knows that if he says he will commit suicide he will have control over her and she will stay. Look up emotionally abusive relationships, that is one of the signs.
