Any older persons in here this a.m.? I need advice. I just turned 43 and a man who is 25 is pursuing me for, well you know, "an arrangement" I've been single 13 years, I'm not looking for marriage, I have a son almost his age and no other children. I live in my own home and have a great job. Comments?
i know im not old...but i have had to deal with age issuses in relationships before too and i hope i can help well as long as you both know what you want then i suppose you should just go for it and do what feels right...its not an unusual thing...but you have to think how this may affect your children...but they are grown up so maybe it will be easy for them to accepet...also if you do decide to take this man up on his offer dont fall too deeply for him...he is still quite young and is probably looking for a fling hope it all works out
Thanks for that. Yea, my son is actually grown-up and out on his own and I'm very aware this is a temporary situation. I guess I'm just tempted although it totally feels weird. I keep telling myself that men my age do this same thing with younger women but at the same time it is perceived totally different when the woman is older. He doesn't look 25 he could pass for 28/29 but even that seems young.
Hey Vetty, it's the most natural thing in the world, you obviosly half want to, so let yourself, just bear in mind that 25y/o men are a bit flighty. Maybe it will be just a fling, but thats ok if thats what you want! peace x
That pretty much says it all. I half want to. So which half will win? You would think a woman my age has found a way to manage the sexual urges. Perhaps you have hit the nail on the head. What do I really want? If I can answer that question honestly then maybe I can figure this out. I was in a loving relationship that ended about one year ago and I do miss that. This flight of fancy is just a moment and I guess I'm hopeful to find another real thing someday. At the same time I'm thinking that I should live life because I'm not getting any younger. Thanks for your thoughts. I wish I was 35 again and didn't just look 35. He thought I was 34/35 when we met and I thought telling him my real age would discourage him but it didn't! I guess when you get the hots for someone (especially if you are 25) then you can't let go. Oh well, off to my real life now. Thanks! Vetty
Insane jester, good points. Life is so uncomplicated when you are young! We old folks think too hard. Vetty
I say, go for it if you really want to. Like others have said, you are both adults, and let's face it, it's got to feel good knowing that the younger men find you sexy. Super nice ego booster! On the flip side though, as a mother myself, I would have to say that I would not be someone whom a considerably older individual would want to deal with if they were dating my kids, even if my sons and daughter were over 18 at the time. I'd be the mother from hell. *lol* But that's another story. Good luck to you...
It's ultimately up to you. My mom has been dealing with something similar... she's 40, recently single and has had a lot of boys 18-28 chasing her. However, she doesn't find anyone under 30 attractive - they seem too much like little boys to her. so she's turned them down, because they aren't at all appealing to her. If you want to go for it, go ahead, it isnt' going to hurt him any. Just remember that dealing with a younger man may make you feel older, may make you realize the age and maturity difference.
Wow, some great advice. Thanks All! I'm up and down about this but in any case, for now, the decision is on the shelf. Funny thing: I called my 76 year old mom and mentioned it to her. My dad passed in 1984 and she has never remarried. She reminded me that when she was 59 she had a 42 year old boyfriend for about 8 mos. He thought she was 50 and she didn't share her real age. I guess it runs in the family. ;-) Vetty
In case anyone is wondering here's the update: No go. I just couldn't go to town with this boy and wake up and face everyone the next day without feeling sleazy. Damn, I guess I'm finally a grown up and making grown up decisions (double damn!) I know older men mess with women 20+ years younger all the time but I just can't do it. I guess I'm flattered and that will have to be enough. Once I realized that I would feel like lying about it I knew I just needed to close that door. Any 30 year olds out there? ;-) Vetty
I like older woman. i am 31 years old now. I used to have a relationship and had sex with a woman who is 7 years older than me. wow. i love making love with her. She make me feel so good....She is a married woman then. i love fucking her at her home, in her bed room. Her white hip made me crazy. But for some reasons, we brokn off now. I have a new girlfriend, who is 8 younger than me. sorry, my english is not good. nice to meet you here, all guy here. great forum to talk about sex and..love.: )
I am 7 years older than my husband. I met him when he was 24 and I was 31. I was married to an older man at the time but that just wasn't working out. I much prefer it the other way around. A younger man will make you feel much younger. My husband and I look about the same age though.
I do love making love with older women. Their skills, their groan, their legs and their sweet pussy. they always make me so happy.
Dusk, Just so you know I'm totally okay with a 7 year difference. The "man" after me is 25 and I'm 43. Just a bit too too much for me to feel comfortable about. Once I went out with a man 9 years younger, I was 40 and he was 31 and that wasn't too bad. Men my age and older go out with really young women all the time but I guess we do 'snicker' at that and pass it off to him having $$. I think at this moment I just know that 30+ is okay but any man in his 20's is still too close to his momma and I would probably be closer to her age then his. Not a good thought! Vetty
