how do you feel about your partner being late, and waiting around for them?... does it really bother you or do you just let it slide? do you keep your partner waiting for you a lot?
if someone was late and if i knew they were oka i would leave im horribly impatient-but im always late so its not right but eh
It drives me crazy. If you're going to be late, call me and let me know so I'm not waiting around by myself. Not like I don't go out on my own for coffee or supper or whatever, but I feel like a giant lame ass waiting for someone. I HATE it when people are late without cause... well, friends aren't such a big deal (since I usually know which ones are always late and adjust, and the others something usually came up beyond their control), but dates and boyfriends and potential boyfriends should call, or never be really late (under 15 is, well, reasonable. Under 5 makes me happy) Grarrrr
for me and one girl it was under 15 hours reasonable, under 5, happy. without any calls too. it pissed me off, kept me from being with friends. so I put an end to it. screw that!
yes you heard right, HOURS - I had to deal with that BS! she was very disrespectful, dealt with it for a whole month, put up with to much
He can never just get going I have to wait and wait...he can never find is FUCKING wallet ...AAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG...It's so disrespectful but he only wories about me respecting him.
Argh! I hate it when people are late. I am almost always on time ad all my firneds and aquaintences are almost always late, without fail. It pisses me off so much and as ihmurria said, it just makes me look and feel like a no friends lameass. Grrr. 15 minutes is pushing it in my book
you just feel like an ass when you're hanging around waiting for somebody who's late. i mean, five or ten minutes isn't bad, or if the person's got a decent excuse, but when they're a half-hour late for no reason it's very annoying.
As long as people let me know if they're gonna be late, then that's just fine.. If someone was late for over 15mins or so and didn't call or anything, I'd just leave. That has never happened though.. most of my friends (and ex-bfs and guys I've dated) are always on time, or just a little bit late.
Gosh, I'm always late... I'll admit that. Drives my boyfriend crazy, but I guess he's used to it now. Usually it's cos I'm not ready (gotta chance my clothes like a hundred times, and talk to my mom for like an hour) but at least now he's comfortable in my house, he just watches tv or something. But I do constantly pop out and say "omg ok I'm almost ready, two seconds" so he knows I haven't forgotten about him! What I hate though is when people show up EARLY and then are annoyed that you're not ready. Like if you say you're coming over at 12, and you show up at 11:45 and I'm still getting dressed, don't be mad at me. Thankfully my boyfriend doesn't do that...but I used to have a friend that did - drove me crazy!
just to expand on that thought: if there was ONLY anal sex there wouldn't be life to worry about. to the subject at hand, apparently i have a problem with being late.
heh, I was like that at my first job (I worked there for two years).... the manager was worried and called my house and left me a message, because I was three minutes late, when I was normally 10-20 minutes early. Sometimes 30 minutes early, but then I'd write down that I was early and get those extra three bucks, whoo.
I don't mind them being chronically late, as long as they call & let me know they're running late. Otherwise, it sucks. I never show up late, I'm always early.
I'm never late. I was brought up to always be on time. My boyfriend however has the kind of family who always shows up "fashionably late". In the beginning of our relationship, I hated it. I thought it was rude. I still think it's rude, but I don't care hardly at all. After an hour or so I start to worry. every sound I hear outside, I think it's him and I get disappointed 5 million times before he actually gets home.
Im a person who was also brough up to be on time.. When my boyfriend is late.. I start worring... Which i hate.. but cant help it... But he knows that I worry.. So if hes gonna be late he calls.. And then its fine... As long as hes okay...
I am NEVER late! I hate being late for anything. I don't expect people to wait for me so I expect the same in return. Now if I know they are going to be late it's ok but if you say 5pm and it's 6pm I start to get very pissed off!
first i want to ask for some clarification, lateness in what sense? (although i agree with blackie that late periods are awful). do you mean where two people are meeting somewhere that neither resides, like a restaurant? or do you mean when one is coming over to the other's house? also, how late are we talking about? it's silly to get angry about waiting a few minutes, but a few hours is another story (and really, if it's been a few hours, should you still be waiting?) if two people are meeting somewhere, and one is late, that is less appropriate than being late when you're meeting someone at their house. unless someone is going to miss a flight, or the first set of a good show, then i see no point in getting upset about it. i'm going to assume that you mean only a few minutes late, not a few hours. waiting for hours is ridiculous... i'd call and check on their status, make sure they're still coming, and find out where they are so i know if i should keep waiting. but i would do that before an hour of lateness passed, and i would definitely do that before i get cranky about it. i'm lenient with lateness, for a couple reasons. 1. i can't suddenly make the person i'm waiting for teleport or magically appear by getting pissed off, so i do myself a favor by not getting pissy about it. my friend does not want to arrive into a hostile situation after being stuck in traffic for 20 minutes (nevermind that sitting in traffic is even more unpleasant than waiting)! if i get mad at her, while she is already frustrated from the traffic, then we will both be cranky and wont enjoy ourselves as much. besides, i cannot pass judgment on my friend's lateness without knowing the reason that s/he is late. i can choose to get upset after i find out she was trifling over something arbitrary, sure.. but only after i know that it was something arbitrary. on the same note, i'm not going to flip out and panic and start calling local hospitals/morgues trying to find my late friend. so i just chill and wait because i understand that things happen, and i know that my friend is not trying to annoy me. 2. cell phones are too expensive, so i do not have one. thus, if i get stuck in traffic, i can't call my friends and tell them i'm gonna be late. by the time i pull off the road, find a payphone, dig up the appropriate change, call, and then merge back into traffic, i could have been there already! likewise, a late friend can't reach me (unless they're supposed to be coming over to my house, and then they could call my apt number). if my friend is late arriving at my house, i'm truly fine with that (unless she is my ride to the airport and causes me to miss my flight, for example). i'm at my house, so i can read, paint, or dance while i wait. basically, i can choose to smoke a pipe in the hammock, or i can choose to get cranky. i choose smoking a pipe in the hammock. also a lot of people said that they would get angry if they did not get a call... but what about calling the late person? check on their status, see if they're close, or maybe need a hand changing a tire? 'cause that's a bit more productive than anger.
