My Boyfriend...

My boyfriend and i have been on and off for a year and he has cheated on me 2x and i forgave him because i love him so much. but i don't know if this is the right way for me to go. I need some advice?? How should I handle this situation?

love.
chelsea

 

twice? dump his ass. and let it be known by everyone that he can't be trusted.

 

once a cheater always a cheater?

 

I had your problem..only I went back 3 times.

I look back now and see how pathetic I was to go back to someone who cheated on me. I'm much better than that, and deserve much better. Love or no love, He's hurting you emotionally...better get out now than later!

 

17 and you think its the real deal? Come on now babe. He cheated twice. I doubt he feels its the same. Dump the prick.

 

get rid of him

 

yep, kick him to the curb.

 

i've gone through that shit before with my ex-girlfriend. she decided it would be cool to go have sex with some 18 year old...so, i took her back, i mean hey, she loved me...then, she cheated again...i HAD to take her back, she didn't mean to hurt me...ugh, then it happened the last time, so i realized, she wont change for me, she can't change for me, and she never loved me...

 

what a ****.

 

my thoughts exactly...you don't know how many drunken nights i spent crying over her...she really hurt me

 

i mean he keeps telling me he will change but i want to believe him i just can't anymore.

love.
chelsea

 

I'm sorry, but that's just NOT true!!! I'm not saying that I excuse cheating, but it is possible for people to change and grow. Some couples have been able to save a relationship after one of them cheated. But that just depends on the people, the circumstances behind it, and other varying factors.

I had cheated on a couple of my ex's. I'm not proud of it, but it happened. I was also the 3rd party in someone else's indescretions. And I've been cheated on. And man, did it hurt! I haven't strayed from any relationship since nor do I have any intention of doing so. I've witnessed first hand how it can hurt someone. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Back to the original post:

In the case of this young lady, I think you might want to consider leaving him. Get some distance from him and let him know that you won't tolerate the cheating. If it was once, then I might be able to see working through it. But twice? Ya need to let him go. No one's saying you won't get back together later on down the road, but you don't need to be with someone who's going to continue to go behind your back like this. You say you love him, but how do you know he loves you? How do you know that he's not just feeding you a line in order to get down your pants?

IF you are to continue this relationship, then please don't make it easy for him to cheat on you. Put him through a little humiliation. Make him get tested for STDs to show he's clean. You should do that anyway if he's going to be sleeping around. If he refuses, then tell him you won't even kiss him until he goes through with it. Make sure he knows that if you ever found out again, you'd kick his ass out your door and never look back. Cuss him out. LEt him know you will NOT put up with it anymore. Or are you willing to put up with it? I know someone who solved their relationship problems by making it an open relationship, but that's not for everyone.

 

It's probably true that if this guy has already cheated on you twice he's bound to do it again sometime in the near future. You are young don't waste anymore of your precious time on this guy. I know it's easier said then done but the sooner you get this guy out of your life the better! All guys are not cheaters he is probably sounds selfish and immature. There are a lot of other great guys out there that will treat you better. Good Luck!

 

I don't see how on earth you could have any question about whether you should stay with the kind of piece of shit who would cheat on you -- twice!

I guess you have to decide if anything you get from the relationship that's positive overrides the fact that he's treating you like you're a worthless piece of shit.

I know that I wouldn't tolerate the chance that my lover was out fucking different guys and bringing diseases home to me. She'd be out on her ass in a heartbeat, with extreme prejudice.

This kind of thing is what makes guys like me -- who respect a woman as a person -- pissed off at girls who throw themselves at the feet of assholes, and then bitch about how guys are such dicks. WTF do you expect in terms of treatment if you let them know you don't care if they fuck around on you?!

Any girl who tolerates that invites it.

Blue skies,
-Jeffrey

 

That is not necessarily always true.

When I was in college, and my then-girlfriend was in school across the country, I ended up cheating on her in a moment of weakness with a girl in my dorm. I ended that liaison prematurely, and that same day confessed to my girlfriend over the phone. My actions put us on the rocks for quite a while before we got back together.

I learned how awful it felt to make my girlfriend feel that bad, and I vowed to never do that again, and I haven't. Sometimes an experience can transform you.

But this guy she's talking about, sounds like she's talking about a habitual, nonreformed cheater. Different animal. I recommend dumpage. Chances are he won't even try to win her back because he'll be on to the next victim.

Some guys are assholes. But not all of them are.

Blue skies,
-Jeffrey

 

LOVE IS NOT WORTH PAIN, BUT YET LOVE IS PAIN? I'm confused. lol. Anyways, I believe that if someone has cheated on you, it is over. They have disrespected you and thus are obviously not "the one". Had they been the one for you they would have never even thought about cheating on you. DUMP HIM. Other people are out their, other loves will come. Time is all you need, for true love is being honest and true to your other

In other words, get rid of him and go find yourself a new one

Good luck!

 

Well I finally did it. I dumped him about an hour ago, and as painful as it was i feel a burden as been lifted from my heart. I know I can do so much better so basically I have a date lined up this coming week and he is a real nice guy so I'm going to be dating around to see what is out there. Thank you all for your advice.

love.
chelsea

 

U should have cutted his penis off!!!

he wont' be cheating anymore!

Damn bastards cheaters!!!!
grrrrrrrrrrr

 

Congrats and very proud of you!!!! Now go get yourself another!

lol i was talking to someone on the internet a while ago (she was very how do i say arogant). She was saying how guys hurt her all the time and cheat and whatnot. GIRLS are ready to settle down at this age (18 mind you) and whatnot and guys will always cheat. This girl is gorgeous too... I hate being stereotyped like that, especially when women are just as bad... So if this girl is right... i am doing something severly wrong here lol. Shit i've been cheated on by every girlfriend I have had. (must be because of the small penis lol). I didn't think he was that small though!! lol. I just do not understand people sometimes, i guess.

Love,
Drew

 

oh so sorry!