How do you feel about your Parents?

Mine are dead..Woohoo! But they were both really great while they were here.

 

i like my dad, he doesn't really talk to me much after i stopped doing sports which i think is pretty bad but oh well. he doesn't really get me, but we share some common interists. he's really smart, and works all the time. my mom... the opposite. she's an unintelligent country person. pretty annoying, but really kind of sweet i guess. i would really just rather not be around my parents a lot, the less time you spend with someone you love the more you to let your perseption of them be better.

 

i love my mom, she is very nice, very understandable, and i can talk easily to her. She is 54, but looks very healthy, could probably pass for 40.

unfortunatly, my dad passed away about 3 years ago. My memory of him is rather faint...but i know he was a good person.

 

my second cousin married a guy and had his baby, then divorced him to marry his brother. i dont think the brothers speak anymore, i feel sorry for the kid.

 

They weren't very tender...
















I think I better leave in in the oven for another hour.

 

my family is one of those ones that looks perfect from the outside. but really we have a lot of problems that we dont even bother addressing just sweep them aside. my parents are still married and have been for 28 years.

my dad is a good person with good morals and humor. he has always treated me nicely. although he never really pays much attention to me. the only time we really bond is if im playing a sport and he comes to my games. other than that we never have had much to say to each other and we go weeks without saying anything - simply because theres nothing to say. he is very scientifically minded and i like that about him because im like that too. when i asked questions as a kid about things he would always give me the full doctors answer, which i probably wasnt ready for. as a result of that i became a little paranoid about some things. he can be very arrogant and stubborn at times though, and it's hard to critize him on anything coz he will transform into a bastard and it's not even worth the fighting. he's impatient and often he says things to strangers that are completely unappropriate and crude. he's usually oblivious about how other people are recieving him when he's out in public. this has caused my sister and i many brain anurisms. my dad is so oblivious he doesn't even realise that his relationships with his daughters are horribly shallow and fake. he hardly knows anything about me. i dont recall even once having him sit me down to have a talk about anything life related. mainly my dads role in my life has been punishment, mum would always go to him if i did anything and he would shout at me throw cold water at me or whatever. it always seemed very important to my dad that our family look good to other people. like we were just trophies in a cabinent and as long as we looked shiny on the outside nothing else mattered.

my mum pretty much raised us by herself, stayed home while dad was at work, gave me advice and such. although ive never been that close with my mum, not as close as my sister and mum are. coming here from the USA with 2 young kids my mum was constantly anxious and nervous and this rubbed off a lot on us. she is so paranoid about safety and monitoring what people are doing, it is to an unhealthy level. also it is damn annoying how she nags constantly about trivial things which dont have to be organised. she is ultra sensitive and cries a lot. she gets upset because she feels like i dont let her be in my life enough but it's just the way i am. she has always been a good mother though, overly protective and stressed out, but she always cooked my meals and packed my lunches and made me food she knew i liked when i was depressed. in contrast to my dad my mum knows shitloads about me (not really internally but just my life) and seems to remember every little thing i tell her.

growing up i was the child "without" the problems so i was pretty independent from an early age. it was always, "your sister needs our help but you'll be fine right so go on and do it on your own". after years of being ignored and brushed aside i have grown to be very self sufficient. now my mum has realised how little i need her shes freaked out and is trying to push her way back into my life very unsuccessfully. all in all the way i was brought up has shaped me a lot but i wouldnt change it coz this is me.

 

shit didnt realise how much of an essay id written

 

Well they got divorced because my dad was an abusive alcoholic. He decided to go to rehab, well he had to go to rehab. He grew up, and realized that he had to get his life back together. My parents have a great relationship now.

 

LOL! I have felt this way a few times about my own parents. They are good people but they have certain behaviors I think they should of worked through and dealt with by now. It's frustrating.

 

It's good to hear that they found their way back to each other and that your Dad did what he had (or was told) to do for himself.

Your story makes me smile because so much can be damanged in a situation like that but the fact that they were able to work through it get re-married shows just how strong their Love is for one another.

 

I think my dad is okay but my mom is one of the most horrible people one the face of the earth. When I stay home from school because I'm truly sick, I get screamed at and called lazy, stupid, and a loser. I've been 16 for a month but am not allowed to get my permit, soley because my mother is a crazy bitch. She puts down everything I care about and everything I do. All the while she thinks she is a good mother and that I'm the problem.


I wish she would pay me now for the years of therapy I'm going to need in the future.

 

Have you ever talked with your Dad about any of this? (or anyone in general?) Have you ever tried talking to your Mom about any of this?

May I ask was your Mom raised by abusive parents?

 

i think in pretty much any fairly healthy household with multiple children, the kids always think they're getting the worst deal out of all their siblings. the olther sibs were spoiled, i was not, i was chained in the basement when i was in trouble, the other's NEVER got in trouble and all that. my parents are good people, and ever child is treated differently based on their personality and where the family is at the time of their birth. my older bothers required a lot of extra attention, i did not. my little brother and sister were raised in a more affluent household where my mother does not have to work, i was not. but i'm well-loved. as for my parents, really, if you think I'M argumentative and confrontational, you aughtta spend a few days with my mom and dad. we get along extremely well as long as they're in SoCal and i am not. they're a great family to visit, but i wouldn't wanna live with them.

 

i would be love and respect my mother even if she wasnt my mom

 

my dad's an interesting person, really.
but he's schizoïd, which makes it pretty hard to have a normal relationship with him.
not that I get to see him that often. he lives alone in the mountains of spain in an abandoned village in which he'd build up one house to live in. seriously.

my mum can't take care of herself, which is pretty pathetic and makes me afraid to leave her.

I don't have a very healthy relationship with my parents. but they're good people.