okay I met this girl like 3 weeks ago on internet and we met in real life. She found me pretty special and she says she has never met someone like me. We had good conversations and have a great night drinking to some beers and talking about politic and life. Time keep running and we talk on internet often (almost everyday). the other day she asks me out for friday to go to a show with me. so we go out to the restaurant and go to that show. I feeled like somekind of energy between us you know what I mean. so just before her buss arrived I ask her if she would mind if a guy that she likes kiss her tonight, would it be a great time for him? she says that she has no problems with that so we kissed. I ask her if she has sometime to give to that guy. She says she's ready to gives sometimes but she's not ready to get in a serious relationship already. and she had to go because of the buss. and here I am. I didn't talk her back since. that girl is really independant so I would like some advice to not f*ck things up.
Consider yourself lucky if to have found an independant girl I love girls who are smart and strong enough to not need you. I think the best thing to do would be to appeal to her intellectually. Just think of really fun/weird/interesting things to do that will make her want to spend time with you. She's being very honest with you. She likes you, but isn't ready to jump into something right now. Become friends and don't comeoff too strong and you'll do great. Peace
i was the same when i started seeing my boyfriend last summer, and i told him that i wasn't ready for anything serious and he said thats cool. well then we got serious and then a few months ago both started getting pissed off with eachother all the time. it may have been the winter blues, i don't know. anyway we both talked and realised that neither of us wanted a serious relationship and so we backed off and chilled out and now actually we just have so much fun as i don't particularly feel tied down, so no itchy feet! we're still really close and love eachother very much, but there is no rule that says the intensity of your feelings dictates the intensity of your relationship. you're young so just chill out and enjoy her company. one more bit of advice tho, don't be playin mind games with her, like hard to get. don't be all over her but always be honest about how you feel. good luck! x
well actually I think it's more than just being friend she said like (sorry it's hard to explain, frenchie hehe) something like yeah I'm ready to spend sometime for you but not as an official way. I don't know if you know what I mean. By the way ahimsa I'll think much about weird/fun/interesting activites to do (do you have any ideas to help me getting started )
Yeah I hope so what let's don't make too much high hopes for the moment, just in case... everything could happens! with life, you just never know!
well we talked today and she said she just don't want any emotions and engagement in this relationship for the moment. It kinda makes me feel uncomfortable a little bit; never been in a kind of relation ship like that. It's like I could be not the only one, with others at the same time. Well, it's just the feeling I got right now. Maybe she find me attractive and likes me that's all there is. She said she has only been in a long therm relationship one time and don't want to be in another one again.
oh it's all FUCKING GOOD now! we talked and seem that it will work on a way pretty weird but GOOD to me and her too.
