Would you be a "bit on the side"?

Just wondering, would you... why / why not?

 

tricky one...i would if she was screwing someone else too and it was just a fling

i wouldnt otherwise

its not fair on the person who is being deceived

 

no. I wouldn't. I love all my fellow sisters too much to do that intentionally.

If I knew she knew and was ok with it, like they were seeing other people, then hell yeah, but I would never hurt another person like that.

 

I have once before... And It was the most horrible experince... She didnt know.. When she found out It was horrible... I felt awful.... I would never do it again unless I knew for sure that she knew it and was okay with it...

 

no i wouldnt because i think im worth more than to be someones bit on the side. thats like an insult. i could never do that to the other girl either nor would i waste my time with an unfaithful guy like that

 

personaly I dont like spending time with people i dont respect, and theres no way i could respect someone who has a "bit on the side". besides its kinda gross shareing like that

 

When I was 14, I had a tremendous crush on a guy that I went to school with. Well, we "dated" off and on, but that "dating" consisted of notes during class, phone calls after school, and on a rare occasion, an evening out with a group of friends and sneaking a few passionate kisses.

Anyway, I had a major case of puppy love. The thing is, he had a steady girlfriend, and I knew it. In fact, at one point she was pregnant with his baby, but the girlfriend's parents forbid him to have anything more to do with her or the baby. He wasn't exactly the type of guy that parents went for, a real "bad boy", which was my total opposite.

I seriously thought I was actually in love with him, that I would go to the ends of the earth for him, but knowing what I know now, it was only an intense crush and a case of wanting what you can't have, as in, trying desperately to get him to change his ways, leave his girlfriend, and end up in love with me, living happily ever after. In my heart, I knew he could never do that. He was, who he was.

I told him at one point that I wanted him to be the one to take my virginity. Here I was, wanting to save myself for marriage, but I was offering myself sexually, thinking it might make him love me. He of course was pretty interested, but he confessed that he would feel guilty being the one to take my virginity because he really wasn't looking for the type of serious relationship that I was hoping for. I had to hand it to him, because I would have done pretty much anything for him, but the more I thought about it, he was right. I would have ended up devastated in the end.

He had run around on his girlfriend numerous times, having sex with other girls. The most we had done was some kissing, and I really couldn't understand why I put up with the way things were. I don't know, maybe I was just naive. But I lived for that phone to ring with his voice on the other end, and dreamed of the next time I could spend with him.

Did I ever feel guilty about his girlfriend? At the time, I was not very mature and it didn't really sink in. All I could really think of was how much I hated her at the time, but how much I wanted to be her. But then, why would I have wanted to have the title of his girlfriend when he would have been running around on me too? Looking back, I'm ashamed of how I was, and can't believe that I wasted my time running after a jerk who slept around on his girlfriend and kept me around for kicks I suppose.

Anyway, our odd relationship continued on until I was 17 years old (I ended up meeting my husband during that year), although it had definitely fizzled out a lot more by then. I was too busy working and he was too busy getting high and promising to come see me but then showing up hours later stoned off his rear end, or, not showing up at all and giving lame excuses. I knew what it was. I wasn't important enough, and he really was what everyone thought of him. A bastard.

 

Nope, not even if the couple had an open relationship. I suck at sharing... if I have a partner, I want to be their only partner. Hardcore monogamist.

 

see, i feel like that with only certain people who i care about really deeply

 

Aw... that's sad, in a way... but I suppose you've learned about of wisdom along the way.

 

i wouldnt be.

if the person you are withs attention is devided between you and the person he or she is with most of the time, then they obviously dont care about either of you very much. so whats the point?

 

Not on 'the side' thing........but if everyone was aware of what was going on - then sure. I am TOTALLY OPEN about being bi/poly and well being poly means that EVERYONE KNOWS what's goin' on.
Secrets sucks -- 'cept at Yule/birthdays.
EarthyMama

 

i wouldn't ever do this to another woman because i have been the girlfriend. hippychick, your story sounds alot like mine, but i was the pregnant girlfriend. i can name at least 10 different girls he had something to do with, one of whom was a virgin. it was awful. i didn't know if i was going crazy or not because of what he told me and what i suspected. it lasted the entire pregnancy until she was 18 months old. i felt undesirable, ugly, old, poor, (they were all teens and i was 22 living on my own with his baby)