Hmmm....A curious situation

Alrighty, so here it goes:

I am bisexual, and I have an awesome awesome girlfriend who I share so much in common with, and we get along so fucking well, and we've gone out for nearly a year, and no fights...

(She knows that I am bisexual, btw).

But...lately, more and more since I came out to everybody, I have been curious to do something with a guy, and it is sort of growing. It is something I just want to try, atleast try.

THe catch- well, as I said above, I have a girlfriend.

It's not so much that I want to really break up with her...because I love our relationship....but theres also this side of me that is really curious-it is hard to explain.

What should I do?

And then....just to add onto it...my best friend, who I shall refer to as Sara, has a boyfriend, Bob. I knew Bob alllllll the way back in first grade, and was just reacquainted with him after about 8 years (im a freshman in highschool), since he started going out with Sara, who I speak to alot. It turns out that he is bisexual, and when Sara showed him pictures of me, he went crazy for me. This was a few months back. Now, Sara and Bob are coming up to visit me this Friday, to see a play being performed at my school.

And I have a feeling that Bob might want to do something... and I am not sure right now, if I WOULD do something, or if I would be 1.) too nervous or 2.) not interested. And if I did do something, I would only realy want to kiss...unless of course for some reason it was a crazy situation.

But I dont think I should do anything- I mean, I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND that I LOVE. But...I am also extremely curious.

Agh.
Any suggestions?

 

I guess my main concern is my curiousity for "Action" with a guy...not so much somethign happening with BOb, cuz for all I know, I could be worrying about something that wont even happen...but still...

 

guys please i need feedback

 

maybe you shoud talk to your gf she might understand? n u could tell her maybe it might be good to get it out of ure system if u reelise ure reely straight ure straight ure gonna reelise that eventualy..if u r! just be honest with her and dont do nehitng that will ruin ure relationship with her coz it sounds awesome !!! just talk to the ppl who u need to it soudns reely complicated but i think u should just take any oppurtunity that comes n dont do nehitng stupid or that would ruin ure relationhsip with ure gf..wiat i sed that already o well soudns cool cya! peace!

 

i concur. DONT DO ANYTHING WITHOUT TELLING YOUR GIRLFRIEND! you will lose her completely. theres no easy way out of this, matey. either you discuss it with your girlfriend and come to a conclusion, or you deceive her and lose her respect and love. *shrugs shoulders*

 

thanks guys- i spoke with her, and she's cool with me experimenting....

gosh she's great

 

I envy you!

 

yeah, really. I'd take your situation any day!

Anyway, good for you. I wouldn't be surprised if your girlfriend and her best friened planned this out as a scheme for you and Bobby! Who knows!

 

Just be honest at all times .. no half truths ..and dont mention certain things after the fact ....ALL OF IT should be expressed and clearly understood ahead of time ... and I am sure it will be fine ..

 

I'm bisexual and my girlfriend was fine with it. She wasn't jealous of other guys at all, but she was way jealous of girls actually, like a normal girlfriend. Basically me being bi played no part in our relationship at all.

The problem is that during teen ages before someone who's bisexual has his first experience with the same sex, there's obviously a LOT of curiosity.

The teen years are FILLED with curiosity and at that age it's hard to make sense of keeping the things you want to experiment with so badly on the back burner. You've only lived like 14 to 18 years so far, and your sense of time is different than older people. The reason teens are so anxious is because the years just fly by and they don't understand why everything can't be happening RIGHT NOW at the same time. When you get older, your sense of time lengthens because you'll already have been on the earth for 30 years or so, you're not going anywhere. You can have a relationship with one sex and wait till that's over to get with the other.

Being bisexual makes that sense of time go even farther out of wack. Just trust that yes, odds are you're probably going to break up one day, or something's going to happen and you're going to be in the position to explore your other side.. And if not, you'd have already built a long lasting enough relationship to do something like that.

 

yeah, I DID talk to her abuot it beforehand, and it DID happen. It was a great experience...but now that leaves me a bit more confused- do I break up with her, and remain great friends (because that is how it was when we broke up before, we are a peaceful kind) so that I can explore more freely? Or do I stay with her, and put it off?

 

OK, first off. Sorry I didn't see your original message. It sounds like you were really looking for input. Not that anyone said anything wrong or that I think I could necessarily say anything better but I have been where you are & in a way still am.

For me the wonderful girlfriend became my wonderful wife & although the whole picture isn't the same I can really relate.

Now here's what I think you should do. You asked so I'm telling. You say that your girlfriend is fine with you playing with guys. As has been said. You are a lucky man. If she is fine with you playing with guys why do you think you have to break up with her? Unless of course you are in a relationship with a guy that you want to be monogomaous with, that would make a difference. It sounds like Bob's girlfriend is also fine with him playing with you. It realy sounds like the 4 of you can have a good relationship of sorts, even if the ladies aren't intimate with each other or with the other male partner. None of this percluded them being friends & you 4 doing things like double & a half dating, if you will. i.e. you all go out clubbing. When you dance you will be dancing not only with your girlfriends but also with your boyfriends. If the ladies are cool with you guys being together there will be times that you & he can have intimate time. I don't know, it just sounds like you shouldn't just leave her unless there is something that I'm missing.

 

thanks that is good advice...its just that someitmes, I think that I may want to explore to the extent tghat I may want to have a emotional relationship with a guy, rather than just exploring with certain sexual intances.

And also, I dunno if I want to push it with her- I dont want to take advantage of the fact that she is okay with me experimenting.

oh poo-ey, it is a weird situation...but I've also noticed that I am more interested in guys, than girls, I look at more gay porn...but I dont think that matters- I sohuld look at each individual relationship, and right now I love my girlfriend, but...oh w/e. I think I am gonna stay with her since i love her, and if there are any future situations, I'll take htem as they come...
Cheers,and Love
Dylan

 

i can understand your curious. but don't hurt her coz your curious.

 

Seriously, dude, don't g'won an ruin an excelent thing jus cuz yer horny.