my dad is on chemo now, he is having side effects that are hurting his back and he is wincing alot. its the begining of the enevatable i think. my sister is 13 and bunked school on teusday and spent it down the beach with a 16year old guy. she told me with a smile on her face and told me i couldnt tell my mum. my sister and mum are at each others throats at the moment and my family is crumbling around me in from of my eyes.my mum still doesnt know about my dad. i think its time she did, the longer the secrets go on the worse it will be. my question is how do i bridge the gap between my mum and sister and how do i tell my mum her ex husband is dying from cancer?
Just go ahead and say it in the best way that you can. But I wouldn't be too sure that all parties concerned don't already know what's up.
I would for sure tell her, if she didn't already know. Maybe it would help to soften her demeanor towards your sister and reach out to your dad in support. I don't think it is ever fair to those who are living, to deny them the chance to speak to a dying person one last time, to work some unresolved issue out, or just to say goodbye. She has a right to know. Glad to see you're still around and hanging in there. Stay strong and drop in here whenever you need to
