hey, thanx 4 looking at this ok... my problem is that my girlfriend doesnt like me anymore but she said she wants to like me and wants to be with me. she said that she has "always wanted what she cant have", and that she "always wants something until she knows she can have it, then she thinks that she doesnt want it anymore". we have only gone to 2nd base and nothing involving me, i have told her that i don't care if we ever have sex or not and that it doesnt matter to me (it really doesnt) i just want to be with her more than anything. we had a "break" as in "time off" for a week, and then i came up with and idea of how we could be together, because she still wants to be with me and wants to like me (even though at the moment she doesn't) - we are having a "non-sexual" relationship. at the moment we are only "hugging close" for longer than a friend hug, i have told her that i feel like we should still kiss each other, two days ago, and she said "just give me some time, k?" i said ok, but i really think we should so that we don't just become friends, because i like everything about her, not just her personality or looks, i love everything about her, and want to be with her more than anything. i think she if perfect and she is everything i want in a girlfriend, i dont want just another friend. PLEASE HELP give me some advice as to how i can help her to like me again because that is what we both want. and i don't know how fast everyone will reply to this but today i am going to tell her that i need to kiss her and i hope she takes it well. anyway, ADVISE ME PLEASE!
It'spretty obvious that you should not see her at all...by your own doing. Maybe someday she'll come back begging to be with you. Right now you are degrading yourself, and looking less appealing to her by the minute. No friendship, no begging...just get out of her life for the time being, and act like its something you want to do...you want to explore other options....
and next time, try not to be someones bitch like you are right now, find someone that you can be on even ground with...the way you worship her and she blows you off is pathetic...
hey, i have been in a relationship like that but what brought me back was on my birthday he brought a ton of balloons, he made me a cake(toxic), and just made me feel special, i am not saying buy her stuff , but make her feel special, make her feel like she is all that is in your life, but be gentle and understanding. do you have ne advice for me? i wanna kiss my b/f but idk if he wants to and i dont wanna upset him.
well if he is your boyfriend of course he wants to kiss you, just make sure you tell him without actually saying it to him that you want to kiss him. give him little hints etc. a good first kiss, is when you are both alone, it is quiet, or reasonably quiet to hear each other's breathing, look into each others eyes for a minute, then keeping your eyes glued to each other, smile and if he smiles back then move closer to him. dont worry if he looks away, it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to kiss you, it means that he is just nervous like most guys are with their first kiss of a relationship. and don't just shut your eyes and expect him to kiss you, even with your lips puckered. you have to look into each others eyes. from my experience girls always love it when i look into their eyes for a minute, then smile, then ask then "can i kiss you?", it makes them feel special. maybe you can try that and in reply to the other people in this thread, i DO NOT want to be with anyone else, only her, so leaving is not an option in my mind. what other things could i try, she said she is willing, and she does want to like me, and that i just need to make her want me more, but still be with her. so i need ideas of things that can make her want me more. i am in my 2nd last year of non-compulsory schooling aswell, so we are restricted to only seeing each other for maximum of about 45 mins per day, but it usually turns out to be about 30 mins average. and today when i asked her if she wanted to kiss me yet and she said no, and smiled, then went to class. the first time i asked her to kiss since our break was on the day that we were bac 2getha non-sexually and she said "just give me some time, k?" i just want to know that she really wants to be with me and not just a friend, kissing me would assure me of that. so once again....any ideas on what i can do, apart from dumping her coz that is the LAST thing i want.
i'm sorry but your gf is manipulating and patronizing towards you, it's called emotional abuse, the truth hurts, they are right
Yeah, I wouldn't see her anymore in a romantic light. Especially if she's told you to back off, that she needs time. My first bf wanted to stay friends after we broke up... I wanted to too, but he kept pushing the boundaries of friendship. Telling me he loved me, wanting to cuddle, to kiss hello and goodbye. I told him to back off, he didn't get it, I stopped talking with him.
Agreed. The Best thing for you in the Long Run is move on down the Road. She might Mature and catch up w/you but don't hold your breath. It hurts like Hell...actually worse but such is Life. You'll be the Better for it...
OKAY! i guess you guys are right, i will stick by what i said, but since i have been outnumbered, i will alter my decision. i am going to still be "with her" in our "relationship" but i won't spend nearly as much time with her as i do, and i won't push for anything, i will act uninterested and hopefully then she will want to be the way we were again, so for now, consider me to have taked your advice under my belt, but i'm not going to break up with her, i'm going to act like i don't need her, hopefully she will want me back eventually coz i don't have a problem just being with her without doing stuff with her, coz i don't like anyone else, nor do i want to.
hello all interested well-wishers of the forums, she is coming over in 3 days and is most-likely to make our "non-sexual relationship" into a "sexual-relationship" again. she is coming over for the whole day, and only my mom will be home, so if she doesn't at least kiss me then I won't give her much longer. i can't wait forever.
all went well on thursday (last week) and she said that the only reason she really wanted to break up with me was coz she doesnt want to have sex yet (she wants to in a year or more) and im fine with that coz i didnt want to have sex for a year anyway a little longer wouldn't matter. so we're going to the movies tomorrow and we're fully back "sexually" now, and it's just everything except sex, for a year or so
