Ok, i smoke weed sometimes just like u know a few times a week or whatever no big deal. but i have this boyfriend now and we been going out for like 2 weeks..and he doesnt like me smoking. because he used to do it alot and he quit a long time ago and he doesnt want 2 be around people who smoke, wich i dig, so i told him i jus wudnt do it AROUND HIM. but he drinks and i dont drink..but i dont have a problem with that u know. he says its 'different' but i think thats a bunch of bullshit. he always bugs me about sex...he makes me feel bad cuz i dont want 2 have it with him. i told him the way i felt and he said he doesnt try to make me mad and he "doesnt" care about the sex..but still we me and him are caught in the moment, he just like wants 2 do it, but i dont and then he makes me feel bad. and i always wear skirts all the time..but he said i shud wear pants cuz they show off my ass. i think thats a bunch of bullshit to so i told him im never wearing pants. and then this girl passed by wearing tight pants and hes like 'now thats why u shud wear pants' and he was just kidding, but wut the fuck? he said hes jus makin suggestions but i dont beileve that. like i do like him but i think he is trying to change me and im only 17 and im jus tryna get my kicks and i dont know if i shud waste my time on him..but its jus that we have this really big physical attraction that i love..so im not sure...any advice?
your relationship sounds chaotic and a bunch of rules so i would just either talk to him tell him exactly how you feel and if that doesnt work, then id leave... sorry if this advice is bad.... good luck hun....
find someone who loves you for who you are. As long as you dont smoke 24/7 and can't function at all or be competitive in your life, (school or whatever) there is nothing wrong with smoking up some. greg
You need to get rid of him! He should accept you for who you are!!! I smoke weed and my man drinks but we both knew that from the beginning and we have never tryed to change that! Good luck!
YUCK!! Dump that loser! Come on, he may make you happy sometimes, but he doesn't like any of the REAL things about you and he compares you to other people. You will never live up to his expectations even if you did try to change (which you should not under any circumstances!). Fuck that guy. Tell him how dumb he is for buying into what the media says is beauty, for trying to change who you are, and for comparing you to other girls. Tell him you want that, go get that. If he wants you, love and accept you. But I can't see him doing a 180 and accepting you if he really said what he did about you and pants and smoking pot. You need someone who loves your personality, not your choice of clothing.
Doesn't sound like you're all that interested in him. If you want to break up, break up. oh, and I don't think that it's unreasonable for someone to ask their SO to not smoke around them (pot, cigs or whatever), but that's just me.
he sounds like a jerk from what you say. It bothers me about him saying all the time that you should wear pants and comparing you to girls that do. I hate it when people tell someone else what to wear. It sounds like this guy is stressing you out way more than should be the case.
haha thanks everyone..i made a deal where i said i wont smoke around him if he doesnt drink around me...but he still keeps asking me why i smoke and he gets like upset if im gonna go out wit my friends and smoke or something. then hes lke 'so if u had 2 choose between the weed and me, what wud u pick?' and im like 'man cmon now ur gonna make me choose? im not answerin this question cuz it doesnt apply to me!' he said its just that he used to smoke ALOT and now hes quit and he doestn want to be tempted by me but i NEVER ever like pressured him 2 smoke.HOWEVER, hes kinda doing the same thing 2 me..because i dont want to have sex now.. im kinda saving it for when im older or something, but he tottaly wants 2 have sex with me and he makes it so tempting...like if we are caught in the moment he says things like 'aw why do u have to stil be a virgin?" soo..correct me if im wrong, but its like i dig that he doesnt smoke so i dont pressure him too..but hes obviously not diggin me on my personal reasons not to have sex now and yet he still kinda pressures me and makes me feel guilty about it? something wrong with this picture??
you should get rid of him and find someone who really cares.. i had a friend in the same type of relationship and he just got hurt...so end while its still early... good luck and there are plenty of other fish in the sea
