I'm in a pickle

I have a great girlfriend, I'm 18, in college and I'm in a tough situation.

I've seen her for a few months and I'm a virgin.

She's the type of girl thats really nice and innocent and don't want to bring sex up with. I wouldn't have sex with her because she wants to wait till marriage anyway, plus I wouldn't want to ruin the image I have of her or bother her.

We go to the same school and I may be transfering to a different school come next semester, this semester ends in a month.

I've got the option of having sex with these two girls and don't know if I should take the chance. With pregnancy and having my girlfriend find out, that option seems grim. But I don't know if I could say no if those girls come to me naked and tell me to take them "NOW". Should I do?

Do I love my girlfriend? I would say no. I'm a bit picky about love. I'm a long ways off from marriage. I want to get a JD and find a steady career first. I wouldn't want to lose such a great girl but it seems like that is the case come next semester anyway, but I am unsure as of yet if the school will take me.

I came into school an innocent little kiddo, now I'm a horn-ball. Someone lend me your ear!

Thanks...

 

It sounds to me like you need to break off this relationship with your current girlfriend if you do not feel that you love her or see yourself wanting to marry her, when you know that she is leaning towards waiting until marriage. No need to string her along if you don't love her and are thinking of fooling around.

I myself have only been with my husband, and he had to wait quite a while to get into my pants.

 

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Agreeing with hcm ... let her go find someone who will Love her - and good luck with the two girls. (don't forget condoms!)

 

I guess I'll just tell the girls to wait until the end of this semester and I'll let my girlfriend know I need some time off.

Its okay if I say we need some time off right?

If I say we need a break, can I see other people or what?

 

You mean time off so you can have sex with these two other girls, and then get back with your current girlfriend? If you're taking a "break", well, I guess that means you can do whatever you want to.

But honestly, I think that you should just let the poor girl go. Don't keep her in your back pocket just to have someone "there". You're young, and you want sex. Quite normal. You're not in love, and you're far from being ready for marriage. Okay. She, on the other hand, might be in love, and she might be thinking about marriage. If you care anything for her, and I think you do, don't just break up with her to have sex with somone else and then come back to her. Could you imagine how she would feel if she were to find out? She'd probably be crushed.

As far as being a "horn ball", I hear it's pretty much the norm for the age that you're at.

Good luck to you...

 

You mean if she finds out we broke up just so I can have sex?

 

Yeah, but I don't want to let her go for a stupid reason. I want to let her go because I'll be busy at a different school and want to concentrate on my studies.

Ugh I know she's going to cry when we break up. I don't want the reason being that I just want to break up. I need it to come at the right time, so I need to hold on a little longer. Got to let her go easy. I'm going to cry to, I know it. I feel bad for people, especially when I do something stupid.

 

She might be sad if you break up with her, but she'll be a lot more sad if she finds out that you had sex with two other girls behind her back.

 

Why are you going out with your current girlfriend??

It seems like you need to "lend yourself an ear" as opposed to having someone listen to you.

 

i say break up with her. that way she has a chance of finding someone who deserves her instead of wasting her time on garbage like you.

 

Because when I got into college, she was one of the first girls I met. And she's wife material. She's such a nice girl, kind heart, solid mind, but the sex isn't there. I mean we get close but its not there.

I'm 18, I don't know if I can last without sex for another 7 years.

 

Jeez, couldn't hit me a little softer?

 

again, i say break up with her so she can hook up with someone who deserves her instead of wasting her time on a selfish peice of garbage like you. oh wait...i didn't say selfish the first time...how remiss of me.

 

Jamaica, don't be a ****. I'm just looking for advice.

 

and you've received it. oh, but i'm sorry, were you looking for advice to condone your crappy plan?

 

at 35 with alot more experience than you i am entitled to be a ****...and my dear, i know how to use it well

 

Hey how about fuck you, and take a cold shower General OnTheRag?

 

why did you come here looking for advice if you didn't want to hear what was offered?

 

because you aren't offering advice, you are merely being a fat ****...

 

you are in a relationship with a person who i would guess is at this moment believing you want to be with her and are serious about her while in reality you are contemplating dumping her and then fucking two other girls. and THEN possibly getting back with her! and she's wife material????? no she is an individual with a brain and feelings. all i hear from your post was "I I I I" its all about what you want. she (read: any woman) deserves better than that.