Any Good hippy men? give me hope...

this thread is really long, text wise, so i only read the first couple of posts...

i think i would be your type of guy. Although i am 2 years younger then you, i am a very nice, extremly easy going guy...almost too easy going actually, and I like to help out when i can all i wear are regular old pants, band/guitar shop t-shirts, and im a heavy user of music . Drug wise, i do smoke pot on a somewhat regular basis, and do shrooms every now and again, but i would never choose drugs over a girl i admired. I hate being around drunks or ciggerettes to...but i live with it. Also my hair is long!

anyhow, there are decent guys out their, just got to keep your head above the clouds. Hopefully by me adding to this thread gives you a bit more hope.

 

hmm Pagansrule, it doesnt take much to make me happy, so my idea of a good time is basically just hanging out in good company and having fun being yourself (this is where the not being piss assed drunk or stoned off your mind to have a good time comes in) i looove music, and concerts rock. i also draw a lot and do a lot of artwork. I can have fun doing anything, as long as it isnt "clubbing"...jesus.

 

Okay, I probably wouldn't complain if you wanted to try me out

 

theres a good hippy man!!!! ^

 

I feel the same way about women in my general age range also*in my area*. Every one of them always wants to go to the bar every weekend and get totally trashed and go home with some random guy.Ugh. I gave up the bar scene about a month ago, sure I'll have a beer or two and play some pool with friends on occasion but my goal isnt to get so wasted I don't remember anything.I had my fun for 2 years, now its time to focus on my schooling and career after that. We're out there, believe me. You just have to look.

 

Why thank you kindly little school girl.

 

lies lies lies. blasphemy!!

 

Nothing wrong with school girls...as long as they wear those little plaid skirts...oooh

Off topic - That woman in your sig is very beautiful.

 

I'm not a school girl! *hmph*

 

gee, I don't do drugs but I'm physically avarage and have the emotional pallet of a house-cat

 

well thanks those posts helped a lot, i dont even mind the drinking and getting high, as long as its done in moderation, i dont expect someone to be perfectly clean, it just seems most everyone i know goes to the extreme with drugs and alcohol to the point where it is unattractive.

 

Well I hope everyone is helpin you out! I know how you feel, most girls around here are the preppy, college girls. And all they want is for some drunk frat guy to take advantage of 'em and go walk around the mall.

I just want listen to music and go to shows and play with my dogs. Maybe one day I will find someone to share in the groove!

 

And hopefully you will too!

 

I'm wanting to find an aussie gal who I can live on the road with. I mean, if I was somewhere and met a girl .... I'd stay there but ideally she'd be someone who was as free spirited as me. I'm just not fussy.

 

Glad to try and help VooDoo. For what it's worth, your problem doesn't seem to be uncommon among either sex (the smart ones anyway). Seems most of the college girls I've met (via ASU and 19 years worth of living near Chico State) are just plain stupid! I just want someone who can hold a conversation, shares some of my values, and doesn’t intend to waist their entire life behind a bottle or a joint. Who knows maybe that's just too much to ask!

Good luck all!

 

Well first of all don't forget you live in Morgantown. People go to WVU to party, plain and simple. I was born and raised about an hour from you in Virginia, and it seems like all the hardest partiers from my high school went to WVU.

When its time to meet the guy you are thinking of, I am sure it will just happen. As much as waiting sucks.

Also think about this. Perhaps a lot of these guys are nice and yearn for the same things as you deep down, while the drugs only distort the surface. I know thats the case with me at least. I was a very romantic, idealistic person a few short years ago. Chivalrous, committed, all that shit. I was so in love with a girl it was almost ridiculous. Everything else in life just seemed meaningless and unimportant by comparison. In fact, when I was with this girl, I basically refused to drink or anything else because I wanted to savor our time together. Well long story short, I had the wonderful experience of walking in on her in bed with a frat guy while she was down at JMU. That just fucking killed me. It basically took all my years of hope and idealism away, like finding out Santa doesnt exist but on a much larger level.

Since that night I havent been quite the same. I started drinking and taking pills a lot, and then the toxicity started to get to me, so I turned into a huge pothead. Like smoking an eighth a day of dank, pot became my life for awhile. There have a been a few solid years of drug abuse. When I was drinking more and pilled up all the time, I was just fucked up. In fact I haven't had a girl since then because, like you, most girls (even partiers) don't want a guy who is completely fucked up all the time. In my own defense though I haven't sought anyone, being emotionally unavailable at this point in my life. So basically what people see from a lot of my actions is just things I am doing, not the person I am. Somewhere down there is a strong, caring man that could make any girl happy.

So maybe try to look past the drugs and shit, and try to see the person for who they truly are. You might be surprised. Also keep in mind that most people go nuts in college, then slow down in the following years. So you can assume that their habits will change at some point.

 

well i hope that the poster of this thread found that guy and i just hope he's got a friend like what she described... i still got hope and still relatively young, so maybe one day..