Ok, Im in a new relationship that is more physical than any ive been in before and it has only about a week old, Im guessing by the way things are going intercourse is on the to do list within the month so I better make sure Im prepared to avoid any unwanted pregancy. First off, Im not sure, but most likely my girlfriend is not a virgin, she has had a lot more past relationships than I have and is also very physically agressive when we are making out and whatnot (uses teeth a lot, bites my ears while im sucking her tits etc). Im guessing im the only virgin of the group. However, Im torn on whether I should tell her this or not, Im not sure if she would be disappointed or it would just be a project for her. I know she does like me, probably more than I do her, but we do care about each other and as long as this virginity thing doesn't fuck things up we should be on our way to a healthy sex life. Any advice? Should I tell her? Anything I can do to make it better for her since I will be inexperienced? Second off, regarding condoms... Obviously as a virgin I have no experience with condoms and am curious what should I go out and buy? Any particular brands/styles that girls prefer, are safer, or will prevent me from ejaculating so quickly? Thanks all.
I think you could tell her that you are a virgin...might make her more excited.. And as for condoms...trojan are the best, in my opinion...but as far as anything else about condoms..which ever ones sound like they would fit.. Happy lay my friend..
I may just be old-fashioned, but I have no idea how you expect to have "a healthy sex life" if it is based on deceit. If she has a problem with your virginity, the best you could have ever hoped for with her is a cheap, emotionless fuckbuddy. If you are constantly thinking about how to keep up the facade of knowing what you are doing, you're going to make it less enjoyable for you and for her. Frankly, at least when I was a teenager, most teenage boys were clueless anyway. Given that she is physically agressive, she would probably appreciate if you told her that you are a virgin & asked how she wants you to do whatever -- from guiding your hand to the best spots to finger (since every woman is different, I had to do this with my 28 year old experienced boyfriend as well, simply because what worked on his exes doesn't work for me), to telling you where to lick while eating her out, to telling you what positions she likes best. No amount of experience will make you a fantastic lover with every woman. The way to be a fantastic lover is to find out what that specific woman prefers -- which most teenage boys fail to learn but which you will learn if you are open & honest about your virginity. And, of course, to be fair, every man is different, so it's not JUST the males who must learn to ask what works for their partner, every man has slightly different preferences as well. As for the question about condoms... If you are honest about being a virgin, she will be the best person to ask. Hell, even if you don't tell her, you two could go to the store & look through the condom section & ask her what she likes. This is especially good for those of us who are sensitive to latex -- Trojan does have a non-latex condom that still protects against STDs, it's made of polyurethane & called Trojan Ultra. They're more expensive & not nearly as interesting as the "ribbed for her pleasure" kind, but they will be a hell of a lot better if she has problems with latex. Which is just one example of why you should ask HER not US!
You should tell her you are a virgin. It should be exciting for her to be your first special partner. Although the posting in this thread was a little heavy handed, the message is that good sex doesn't come naturally. All too many boys are not taught or shown how to pleasure a woman. Ancient cultures used to teach boys this art, but religeon has since got in the way. If you are open and honest about your virginity, you can also ask her to show you how to pleasure her too. That is the only way to learn. Let an experienced girl show you how to turn love into a mutual caring and sharing experience. From my perspective, after 28 years of having regular sex with countless partners, and having had sex thousands of time, every woman is different. When I am with someone new for the first time, I still get them to show me how they like to be pleasured.
The first step to a good relationship, sexually and otherwise, is honesty. Tell her. Chances are, she'll be glad to show you what to do. I like the idea of condom shopping together. She can help you decide what to get, and then show you how to put it on. If she knows that you are a virgin, it'll be easier for her to understand why you don't seem to know what you are doing! And, you'll be more relaxing without the pressure of pretending.
Hmm I have a few girlfriends who wont do anything with a guy that is a virgin. Virgins get attached way to easy.
I like trojans... get a latex based condoms with nonoxly-9 spermicide, lubricated... don't go for the 'warming sensations' ...you can try the 'her pleasure' ones though!
...aaand your friends want to have shallow, meaningless sex, I take it? I hope these friends don't bitch when they end up with partners who are self-absorbed assholes, who don't give a shit about them, use them, and dump them. That is, after all, what you get when you eschew sex with someone who might *GASP* get attached! Wouldn't want someone wanting to see more of you, now, eh? "Fuck me and move along." Great attitude your friends have. Blue skies, -Jeffrey
Well, most people seem to think I should tell her, which is what I had been leaning towards anyways but Im afraid of any backlash. Two people on this board have already mentioned how some girls just dont want to deal with virgins. And at 19, finally with someone I care about that am quite anxious to lose my virginity, it's been nice, but it is time to move on. I just dont want to lose my opportunity is all.
Jeez, No, you don't have to make a formal VIRGIN announcement. If it comes up swell but it ain't mandatory. And yes, it might blow the deal. Yes, buy some condoms. That could definitely blow the deal. Sex is often kinda awkward the first time with anybody so, don't worry about it. Be gentle, take your time and use plenty of foreplay. Chicks like that. Also, say stuff that makes her feel good about herself, everybody likes that. Play nice and it'll all happen when it happens. And to thos of you who wouldn't screw a virgin, how exactly do virgins get screwed then? Jeez
Yeah. I think it is funny when they get actually do get attached, and hte person they are attached to just wanted some... you know? I myself am not like that at all. I only have sex with people who are out to have sex... I will never tell a person I like them just to have sex. The "Great Attitude and move along" thing isn't really how it is you know. They just mostly just want the people like i do too. Although I rarly have sex myself... only twice have I with "party partners" as it would be. As it is... you will almost never see virgins out partying looking for a quick lay for their first time... they find "the one" get screwed over then go out and party... its how this world seems to work. ya know? BTW these are my *female friends* that I am talking about, not guys.
They go out and find "the one"... then get screwed over. lol Then after that its all time for playing the field. Atleast thats how It seems to happen around my area... hell it happened to me. I think it happens to everyone? Its not like a purpose thing either, you konw? Its just when its your first time you are extremly attached and say the othe rperson isn't a virgin... they may not feel exactly the same or something stupid comes up like that and the "virgin no longer" is devistated, although it may just be a common or reasonable breakup.
Oh, just so you guys know my friends, when they are actually in a relationship, they do not cheat, they just like to have fun when they are not. How is that so bad? Especially the not cheating thing Is what I'm really impressed about. Its a rare find these days, i think.
