Most Fucked Up Phone Call ........(long post)

i am so heated right now, my gramma just called bitching about jimis hair and how he didnt chose the haircut so i shouldnt have given it to him.......
FIRST OF ALL he didnt chose to have long hair before and he doesnt pick out his own clothes so i guess i shouldnt dress him either since he is too little to chose his own clothes................ then she started in on me about me "needing to look normal" cuz all of the kids at lillys school will think i am different then the other moms............ FUCK THAT i try not to get mad at her but i told her off, I am not gonna be a mom pants big sweatshirt wearing soccer mom like the other moms at her school, they all dress like they died the day their kids were born and i am too creative and respectful of my child to pick her up from school in sweats and a bath robe like the other moms. i dont think it will hurt her that i have dreads and wear tshirts and patchwork skirts.................... come on their is a mom at her school with a damn mullett and tatoos on her neck, so why am i so bad for having a fairy on my arm and dreads in my hair which i wear a bandana when i pick her up anyways.......................


YOU DONT CALL ME AND COMPLAIN ABOUT ME AND MY CHILDRENS CLOTHES AND HAIR UNLESS YOU WANT TO GET A EARFULL OF MY OPINION.......................................... I can raise my own damn kids better than anyone else can!!!!!!!
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way to go mama!

 

nana's are just that...nana's not mama's....

seems to me like you would rock to have as a mama and only your kid will know that...and that will be long after nana is gone...something the nana in your case seems to be forgetting. She really should be worrying about her own relationship with your little one, not yours...don't stress too much, it sounds like you are a really caring person who actually listens to your nan and cares about her even if she isn't getting you and the way you like to do things..
just listen to the rant from her, go aha, and keep doing what you know and think is best for your lttleun...
and remember you are not alone in your independence!

 

thanks you guys, i usually let her say whatever she wants and just joke around and chalk it up to her being crazy LOL but this time it really offended me so i felt like i needed to say something to let her know i am not going to compromise myself to please the other parents at my childs school.
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I would of loved to had a mom like you. Who put so much on being normal anyway. I mean look what is considered "cool" now-says. Listen to me saying now-a-days, that makes me old! I think you hafta set the limits on how far the grandparents can step in! I would rather see you picking her up in the patchies and dreads than a mullet and sweats! I hope that I can find a women as open-minded and free-spirited as you to have children with.

Jah Bless

 

hahahahaaa!!! keep it up fpmama, at least you are authentic. grammas are never happy with how you raise your kids unless you do it just like them. man, i bet the teachers at my boy's schools wished they could go back to just dealin with me, my hubby is a big longhaired tattooed 'tough guy' - he laughs when he goes to the school, he says the crowds in the hall part in front of him like the red sea...

 

heh heh...great image there!!!

 

way to go fpmama. where what you like and dress your kids the way you want too. i totally feel you about people trying to make me wear what THEY wear. i always have to remind them that I am almost 26 yo and not 12 and that I capable of making rational decisions for myself and my children.

 

I can totally understand why you'd be so upset. Hair and clothes do NOT make the person. It's what is inside that counts, THAT'S what truly makes the person! If there are people too shallow at the school to look past that, then shame on them. Hold your head high and know that you're the better person than they.

 

*Applaudes*
Totally agree with your attitude

 

HE'S YOUR BABY! YOU get to make the decisions for him. It's your job, not your gramma's. Keep doing it the way you know is best for that baby and you!!!!

Keep the faith, funkymama!

 

I remeber right after all those school shootings a bunch of kids at school were being sent home for having pink or purple hair and wearing Marylin Manson shirts and the like. One of there mothers was on the news that week and she made a good point!

She said that it is not the kids that are expressing themselves that are causing the porblems. It is the kids who are made to fit in and dont!

 

You should never try to impress those your not impressed with
You should never try to please people who your not pleased with
You should never give so much of yourself away to those you don't respect...

 

very true words...of mother hood

to choose how their child is ...

i had many people point the fingers at me
for years, 3 kids here... girl 14 is her own self
boy 11 ,just started cutting his hair
hes growing and learning still
youngest 2 and half yes seen as another hippy.

but this system creates the divide between people.
people fear thoses who behave differnetly
from what is told them by a capitalists world...

just be yourself and your children will learn from this
like mine
no one is perfect but we can change this world if
we teach our children thier is another way
to be free to live wholey
keep learning about this world and pass
the knowledge on to your kids
be open about how you feel let your
kids know you stand up for your way of living
and all the best to you
this world is harder for adults and children
who are different..
lovenpeace from saff..

 

I believe you should just stick up for your children in this kind of situation...

 

ha ha i looked at your gallery....is she annoyed because you gave your son a mohawk? :&