What is a fucking friend anyway

I just found out my supposad best friend and my ex (who was the 1st love of my life) have decided to go steady behind my back. I have been hurting enough anyway to find out they had developed feelings for each other then they do THIS behind my back.
This might sound petty, but she has been my friend since we were 5 years old. I'm just so hurt that she has done this to me.

 

Oh sweetie I know the pain. I wish I could make it go away for you. And for me.

 

I'm so sorry Gloria dear. I am here to talk to if you want to talk about it.

 

Sounds pretty bad. I was also dissed big time by someone who I've known for ages, but not in the same manner. I think I would take physical pain that I felt over the mental stress you're having.

Stay up

 

That's terrible. I hope you feel better soon. It just takes time for those kinds of wounds to heal...

 

i'm sorry to hear you're hurting! love sucks, people are stupid, and men are heartless scumbags. stick a few well-placed pins in a wax doll. you'll feel better. that's what i a;ways do anyway. better yet, go eat a pint of ben & jerry's new york superfudge chunk, and watch the princess bride. that helps even more.

hope you feel better.

 

a VERY similar thing just happened to me recently....i couldnt believe they did it, and lieing to me was the worse. But for me after the hurting things have gotten somewhat better....he likes this other girl now, but then he still fucks with my head so i dunno, its gay bc hes one of my best friends, but yeah...my lesson from it all was...DO NOT TRUST....ever. lol sounds ridiculous but i dont trust anyone with everything...maybe some things, but not everything, things will get better...keep your head up.
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Theres gunna be some stuff that your gunna see in the future, that makes it hard to smile. But through whatever you see, through all the drama and the bullshit, you gotta keep your sence of humor. You gotta be able to smiel for me now.​

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i can't help but say that your friend and your ex have all the right in the world to seek happiness where they can. it may very well be that the only reason you were with both your friend and your ex was to bring them together for some very important lessons. try not to fall under negative emotions, i know it's super hard to do, but it's a big step. you love both of them, don't feel betrayed, they cannot be expected to deny themselves a relationship to save your feelings. if you love them, you'll be able to genuinely wish for their happiness.

 

i agree!...well put!

girl, you'll be ok

 

actually, no offense intended, for i'm sure you truly mean to be supportive, but i think it's rather rude and insensitive, when someone else is going through pain, to preach against normal, natural reactions to pain by calling them "negative" try and interpret their "lessons" for them. i'm sure there are lessons in this for all concerned parties, but what they are and how they deal with them are their business, not yours. if they have a strong friendship, then perhaps she'll be able to let go in time, if that's truly what she wants and needs, but it will happen when and if she is ready for it and done grieving. grief is a part of love too, and it's necessary that she allow herself to feel it if its there and move through it - not around or over it - to truly heal and grow.

so go ahead, mick_jagger_is_so_hip, smash your "dammit doll" against the wall, jab a few pins into a nameless wax image, beat the holy living snot out of your pillow while screaming "bitch! bitch! bitch!" at the top of your lungs. then let yourself sob your eyes out, eat an entire package of chocolate chip cookies, while blobbing out on the couch watching kiki's delivery service, (or your favorite comfort movie.) then give it a few days to settle. it'll be easier to move on, and salvage the friendship (if that is what you want) after you do.

 

Thanx girl.
I'm not going to fucking give my friend and my ex any support or be happy for them. They can get fucked I hate both of them.
I bawled my eyes out all last nite, there is no way I owe them any kind of love or fucking support after what they have done to me.

 

I wish I had some sort of wonderful answer that would allow all to live happily ever after, but I sometimes wonder if maybe there isn't more to the total story than I am hearing or understanding. If you were friends with this person since you were five, then your ex-boyfriend must have socialized with you both. While it's certainly not in the best form to pick up a friend's ex-boyfriend, you and he did terminate the relationship.
You don't mention if you left him or if he left you. You also don't mention whether or not your terminated relationship was amicable.
I don't think it's appropriate for me to jump in and side with you and cast aspursions on them the way everyone else here is. I validate your unhappiness and certainly would not tell you how you should or shouldn't feel, but I'm not going to support your anger.
Be bigger or grow up and move on!