I gave my gf oral for the first time.....

So tonight I gave my gf oral for the first time, and i guess it went well, I'm kinda upset by it though bc she didnt orgasm. I mean, I understand the whole "she doesnt have to orgasm for it to feel good" thing, but I wanted the first time to be absolutely awesome for her and she told me that it was amazing, but i dont know I just really wanted it to be like over-the-top incredible for her, and for her to have at least one orgasm. oh well.... i guess maybe i'll get better w/ a little practice...

 

First time performing oral on a girl? Don't expect her to orgasm, unless she has a hair trigger. Some girls will, and some girls won't. It takes a fair bit of work and talent for me to orgasm through oral stimulation. Ask her to masturbate for you... if she's willing, it's a great way to learn what turns her on.

 

ihmurria is right. very right.

heck i didn't have one my first time and I was perfectly fine and perfectly satisfied.

 

dude....the porn flicks LIED man they LIED

 

keep trying

 

LOL! I think you should let it go. So she didn't have an orgasm -- I know plenty of girls who have plenty of enjoyment from sexual interaction without orgasming. Just relax about it all. Enjoy being with each other. Only when you are both not stressed when you have sex will you have the best results. She may be tense. You may be tense. She may not know exactly what she needs in order to reach orgasm. You may not yet know how to give that to her. Here's a tip: do NOT use the pointed tip of your tongue. Use your tongue flat like a dog would, and gradually increase pressure as she gets more aroused, and keep a steady rhythm. Have you ever tried to jerk off with an unsteady rhythm? By the time you're peaking, as a guy you pretty much MUST have steady constant strokes to keep it going til you blow off. Same with a girl, pretty much.


I always love ihmurria's replies. She's got her head on so straight!


-Jeffrey

 

Hey, I guess I got lucky. I made my ex orgasm through oral most of the time, and we only did it a handful times!

But surely it's the same for women as it is for men? We don't need to orgasm to enjoy a blowjob, do we?

 

Waht a coincidencde...idunno when this was posted but its sunday night (easter sunday) and iu just gave my girlfriend orl for the first tiem last night...she wasnt orgasming after a while so i went in with my fingers and got her off with those eventually...but she said she thoguht that if i didnt do the fingers and just stcuk with the oral for a while it owulda got her off...who knows....but man im right where you are and im hopin that practcie makes it better....alright well good luck in the future and your so not alone...

 

Fingers are a really good thing with oral, I think. It gives a nice different sensation, rather than the tongue over and over again. A great combo, heh

 

It could've gone worse than just not orgasming. I strained my tongue the first time I did it and then we got walked in on by her dad. Woah, worst experience ever, especially being 16 at the time.