I'm in love with my boss!!! HELP!!!

I work with a guy (who happens to be my boss - errr not good!!) and fancy him like mad. He's 2 years older than me. What with it being a work situation I know I have to be careful, but I occasionally flirt with him when I manage to gather up the confidence but usually end up getting butterflies around him and hence find myself keeping my distance. I can't really be myself at work, especially around him. Infact the only time I relax at work is when he isn't in on certain days.

I constantly think about him. A few months ago I even had trouble sleeping because of him and felt I was going mad. My feelings have calmed down recently, but whenever I have a spare moment I think about him. For instance, what he's doing now, what he does in his spare time, what his family/friends are like and of course what he's like in bed!! No need to mention that one!

Despite having the hots for him, I can't quite work him out though. We don't talk much on a one to one and when we do, sometimes he can be really sweet. Other times he comes across as rather standoffish. So you can be talking away to him and he'll cut in and change the subject. He is difficult to talk to or rather difficult to get to know.

The only things I know about him are through my colleagues and I have found out he is getting married in 6 months!! Trust me to like someone who is already taken!

I know my morals and I keep saying to myself "don't even go there". So I try to suppress my feelings but then out of the blue he will do something that will make me interested again. For example I was talking to a colleague about work and my boss was standing close by listening. I said something to my colleague and then I turned to him and caught him checking me out. His eyes then moved up to meet mine and he wasn't just looking at me normally. He was looking at me with a twinkle in his eye. It was enough to send my heart racing and felt myself getting hot and going red. I then tried to carry on talking to my colleague but I was talking to her as if I was distracted by something.

When it comes to this guy for all I know he could hate me and be playing a game, or fancy the pants off me but doesn't know what to do. I just don't know.

If any guys out there can give their perspective on this (and girls too), I'd really appreciate it.

Thanks

 

sounds very much like a lady l am currently very sweet for, wish you luck girl..

 

Oh, there you are. I don't have any sage advice for April, unfortunately, but since the "awards" thread was closed by the time I found it, I never got the chance to award you the distinction of "right-wing pundits' worst nightmare" on the basis of your sig image!

Sorry for the off-topic. Carry on.

 

oh jeezz, i could see myself in your shoes...quite unnerving situation, cos you know you want him but you cant have him....well, if i were you, i wouldnt do anything. seriously, if the guy is taken, well, he's off limits. second, he's you boss. he might like you or find you attractive but according to what you say, he hasnt crossed that line, and doubt he ever will.
believe i understand what it feels like to have such a huge crush on someone and not being able to do anything about it, but taking risks in this area has given me a lot of grief in the past, so i take things as they come. . i dont know if i'm too chicken shit to do anything, Maybe you'll think my advice is too chicken shit, but well, it's up to you, i'm only giving my opinion. anyway, wish you luck and please dont lose your head for someone who might not reciprocate.
oh man am i feeling weird today/!

 

Well, I wouldn't use the word "love," I'd say "infatuated." You have feelings for YOUR IDEA of who this person is, and said feelings seldom reflect reality. Don't confuse the feelings you get from smelling (even if it is semi-subliminal) someone (pheromones, honey), with the devotion you would have after spending two or three years with him, and seeing him as he really is (farts and all.)

Distinguish between the man and your romantic picture of the man.