ok to make a long story short i have a friend who lives in florida who i love with all my heart... there is only one problem shes 15.. im 19.. i am one of thoughs people that belive that age is just a number.. but i look at maturity before anything else.. i am going down there to visit her in may.. she wants to come up here to see me for part of the summer too.. well i let her know how i really felt about her.. that i do love her and all of that happy fun stuff.. she does understand about the whole age law thing which i wish didnt exist but oh well... well anyway when she comes down here in the summer she is gonna stay with me and everything.. i want things to happend but i know full and well that they cant.. did i do the right thing in letting her know how i felt.. sorry this was so scattred a lot going through the head right now... thanks
honestly I dont think it was, it will make her way more attached to you, just remember if someone says something to her parents they will probably go to the authorities.
Hm, that's a tough situation...Not saying that you're leading her on, but an older guy really used to lead me on and I was young and naive so I became really attached. That was years ago, I still see him and I don't think I'll ever get over him...
i doubt they will say anything everyone is so parinoid so it happen whn some crazy father went off about a boy having sex with his daughter people don't normally react like that she is 15 you are 19 that is not that much of a difference. Keep your dick in your pants if your worried about it. You can love someone wiht out having to show a physical expression of it. I think it's the best thing to be honest about how you feel ok. take care hon. hugs, gilli
oh trust me i plan on keeping my dick in my pants.. i dont want it go to sex until we both are ready and until i am in the clear.. but i do love her.. it just sucks that a relationship without sex cant happen
If you really love her, it will be well worth the wait. I know that it's got to be hard (oops, excuse the pun *lol*) to not express yourself sexually with her, but just think, all of that suspense is going to make it even better when it DOES happen. In the meantime, you'll become more confident with your feelings for her if it really is meant to be. My husband is 4 years older than me as well. We were "fooling around" with one another when I was 17, he, 21. We didn't actually have intercourse until I was 18, but it was more me not being ready for sex and wanting to hang onto my virginity than anything else.
I agree with HCM! If you wait it will be well worth it! I think you did the right thing. Just take things nice and slow. It was good you were honest with her about your feelings, just make sure you always remember that she could end up a different person in a few years.
Tread warily. Make sure you aren't leading her on, or taking advantage of her, or doing anything she isn't completely and utterly comfortable with. Don't hide it from either of your parents - hiding it can make it into a huge, awful, police-involved situation.
oh trust me my dad knows.. he is fine with it as long as it doesnt go beyond what she is ready for and the law.. i just want everything to work out ok cuz this is the first girl that i have felt this way about that feels the same for me
But do her parents know? Because they're the ones who are likelier to be upset, the ones who would consider calling the cops on you.
I'll send you a private message if you want of my own experiences with this same damn subject. The age gap is 16 to 21. So its a bit more stretched. I'm an American resident in an ultra conservative state with very protective parents and a good head on my shoulders. And a good experience out of this. So if you are interested in hearing my end of the stick just message me.
I'm in a relationship where my girlfriend is 16 (17 next month) and I'm 21... this relationship started off as a sexual one (I was a virgin, and I had a couple bad relationships before, and frankly I began to stop caring, was rather insecure) that turned into a normal relationship(we put sex on hold for a bit to slow down). Well oddly enough after about 2 months her sister caught us, told her guardian, and I thought I was gonna go to jail or just not be able to see her again... but oddly enough I was lucky and now I live with her and her guardians and have for the last year, we've been going out for almost 2 years now. Sometimes the age difference does show every once in a while, some things she doesn't quite understand yet makes it difficult (and I have add, that makes it worse) but it just meens we've had to strengthen our communication
