worried 4 a friend ... please help me out?!?

hey
i just got off the fone 2 my friend and she thinks shes pregnant but shes not sure. her bf pressured her into having sex w/o a condom bc he wants kids. (Shes only 16 tho)
What are the syptoms of pregnancy at the very start. She said her stomach is all tight and she feels bloated plus she cant lay on her stomach. SHe said its not due 4 her perid coz she had it bout 2 weeks ago.
If anyone can help me 2 help her i would really appreciate it. im really worried bout her.

thanks

 

usually projectile vomiting, that comes 2-3 months in, feeling drowsy, slow or accelerated leg hair growth, no period, bloating, can't drink tea of coffee (caffeen), paracetamol makes you feel sick, etc

 

I don't think being bloated is a sign of pregnancy. If she had her peroid two weeks ago she would not be feeling any symptoms yet.

Although if the fact that she had sex without a condom is making her stressed out, you'll be amazed at what your body will do. She can miss a peroid just from excessive worry so tell her to relax.

I would be more concerned about her getting on the pill, or better yet, breaking up with her boyfriend because it is awful he is pressuring her to have kids. How old is he? If he is 18 or older, I normally don't say this, but tell someone who will have him charged with statutory rape. He is forcing her to do something that will change her life forever. making her give up the last moments of childhood she has left, and if she doesn't have the guts to put this guy away, be a true friend and help her. Give her a chance to have a future.

I wouldn't worry about pregnancy symptoms this early, but tell her to go to any family planning clinic and take the Plan B pill, just to be safe. Get her on some birth control. If she won't break up with this abusive person (this is sexual abuse all the way) tell her to protect herself at least. He doesn't have to know. If he finds out, it sounds like he'd be pretty mad and god know what would happen then. Please help your friend get out of this awful position. She probably needs a good strong friend.

 

thanks guys.
I have told her she should stop seeing him - hes 26 and has 2 kids 2 his ex and thinks that its not a meaningful relationship unless a child is produced from it. Its all very wrong and i seriously dislike him, although if i got him in trouble or anythin she would hate me. Ive told her im there 4 her and she knows i will b no matter what, but i dont know how i can make her stop seein him or anythin, without losing her friendship.
She is really stressing about it all, coz if she is preg her family will disown her etc, but she wont leave him.
Does anyone have any ideas how i could help her without losing her?

thanx

peace & love

bunny

 

you really need to go to her parents and make them go to the police. Tell a teacher, they will go to the police. She might hate you, and watch him get put away kicking and screaming, but if you really care about her well- being, you have to. If you don't, she's going to get hurt, or wind up pregnant and her life will just stop. what if her parents really do disown her (there are many laws that protect her, such as if she becomes pregnant, she is an emancipated adult and qualifies for public assistence, but that's not what you want for her either, right?)

This guy is sick. He's 10 years older than her and he's being sexually abusive and very manipulative. I urge you to get her help. This guy needs to be put away. Or at least tell someone else in confidence that will stop this before it goes too far.

 

for the preg symptoms... remember that stress can trick your body into a lot of things, like thinking it's pregnant, making you miss a period, even making you throw up (well, stress has done that to me before)

anyways, listen to headymoechick - she's full of good advice. That's an unhealthy relationship... at 16, you aren't even close in maturity or life experiences to a 26 year old, let alone one with two kids and an ex. ew.

 

Let me put it to you this way dude, "It is better to lose a friendship and have someone hate you, than to lose a friend." I had a g/f who got pregnant @16. It fucked her life up royaly. Don't get me wrong, she loves her child and would do anything for her. But the asshole father doesn't want anything to do with her and offeres no help in anyway. He just sits around and smokes pot. And b/c she become an adult in the eyes of the law she couldn't press charges against the fucker. (believe me she wanted to ... seems he had a thing for underage girls.... )

Look when I was 15 I thought I was in love with man who 29. We met over the net and I actually physicaly met him once. We made but never had sex (something in me said no), and I know he actually cared b/c he had the perfect chance to rape me and didn't. I was lucky. I think he really did love me, Im not sure. She's not so lucky, b/c the fact that he pressured her like this tells me he doesn't love her. And if needs to have kids for the realtionship to actually mean something to him... he has mental issues!

And if she's on the "average" 28 day cycle, 2 weeks after your peroid you are your most fertile. GET HER AWAY FORM HIM, HE IS CONSIDERED ABUSIVE BY LAW AND BY DEFEINITION! I dont care if it does take her parents, she needs help and unfortunaly you're being asked to step up to the plate, by her telling you. If you need someone to talk to during this and the aftermath , we here will help you and you can email me. (ecalvert0002@gcc.vccs.edu) If want to call please email first I dont give my # out on public sites (no offense everybody but agirl cant be too safe, as seen in this poor kid's example)

 

thank you so much everyone. i talked to her mum thismorning and she was totally horrified at wat i told her.
She talked to my friend after i left and theyre trying to sort it out - hr mum is going to talk 2 my friends now ex bf and see what happens from there.
I havent talked 2 my friend since this morning . she was realllllly mad @ me and called my a backstabbing usntrustworthy bitch - i think ill call her when its all calmed down a bit
I feel bad for going behind her back, but i think it is all for the best. i hope she can at least see it from my side. maybe then she will 4 give me 4 it.

thank you all so much 4 ur help, i really appreciate it and ill post if anything else happens.

Thanks again 4 ur support

peace & love

bunny

 

I think the best thing would probably be to tell her to get rid of him... either that, or have her get birth control,even if its behind his back because 16 is young to have a child especially if she doesnt want it.

about the symptoms, I have been asking my mom alot about this lately(shes a nurse and has had 5 kids) and she said you wouldnt really see any symptoms for at least 3 weeks, and also, everyone is different. Some people dont get morning sickness, etc..

 

I'm glad to hear you stepped in. She might be mad for a long time, years even, but she will thank you in the end. Let her get her head straight. She isn't mentally healthy is she let this guy manipulate her and wouldn't leave him herself. She has a lot of healing to do.

I'm really proud of you. It was hard, I'm sure, but you saved her from what could have been a life of misery, and pain. You are truely a great friend and woman.

 

i dont know if theres any legal recourse, cause it wasnt rape and 16 is the age of consent in most places.

 

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