Sooooo lately I have been confused..... ahhh hahhaah I know I shouldn’t be at this moment in my life though.. you see.. when i originally got my locks.. i got them for all the wrong reasons. Fashion, blah blah blah (plus I used some wax for the first month and a half) Soon learning and understanding a new meaning for my dreads, they have been with me on a grow thing part of my life and have showed me much.. yet I don’t know if i should cut them off... and grow a new head of roots naturally..... Attachment is huge in my life.. its not at all.. but it is.... My hair i feel i cant separate with. but i feel i can at the same time. very much on both sides. i feel that not only would they be better but it would support my growth.. at the same time my dreads as they are now are getting long and beautiful and are continuing to support my growth.... Sooo really i just don’t know... there is hardly any reason to cut them off. yet there is much reason to do so.. breaking through my own walls and live it free. ohhh please help me Here is a picture.. Hahahha my gallery has plenty too
hmmmm... I know how you feel. Exactly too, isn't that strange? I combed mine out...I'm actually ok with it. It was very healing. And I am so happy I got the wax out. I did cry though out combing them though. Now I feel like my hair will have real meaning to me when I start again for my own reasons. I think you will know exactly when the right time is. Something is stopping you...think about it and feel where it comes from. Tune into it and find out what it is saying... May just be fear? Maybe more. Only you know. If you decide to shave 'em off we'll be both starting a new so I'll be here for ya. *big hugs and support*.
totally, completely, absolutely know what you're feelin'. i had my reasons for starting my locks and i believe they were good reasons because they were my own. however, i've always been kind of bitter about the fact that i felt forced to start my roots in unnatural ways (backcombing, etc). i always wanted natural locks that would be more in tune with my own natural state, more likely to adapt and grow with my spirit in unusual and unpredictable ways. many times i've considered cutting 'em off and starting fresh, but then i think that i would lose everything i've gained and learned in the past three years that these locks have been growing. and while three years is really only a very brief time, there have been huge changes in my life, huge developments in myself and i feel that i would in some way lose part of the emotional and spiritual memory of my journey if i were to cut off my locks. they've been such a huge part of my journey; that constant physical reminder of my spiritual growth. soooo.....i guess what i'm saying is that the beginning doesn't matter; the journey and the final destination are what matter. so i've grown to love my locks in spite of their strange beginnings. they serve a very stronge purpose and i would feel lost and kinda lonely without 'em. i guess you should do whatever feels right for you, but i would really, really advise against it. to me, it would feel like cutting off a hand or something. very, very serious and scary. but i'm sure you'll make the right decision for you and i'm sure it will all end wonderfully. i wish you all the best in your journey.
i agree with everything else everyone is saying... i think you grew with your dreads. you learned about yourself and developed just like your dreads, forced at first, but eventually really true... good luck with whatever you decide.. i like the adventure my dreads are putting me through now peace and love
I support what mountaingirl said..... but look to your heart what feels true. Your dreads are a big pert of you physically and from what i know of you emotionally. does how they began mater to you because its about what they are now, you could allway cut out the origional back combed and waxed areas leaving them wax free. Or if you feel then need to start afresh you could do that. *huggles* much power to you in this confusing time.
I know what you are say Buddah. I have been goin through the same for a couple of months now. But Mountaingirl makes good points as did MaryJeanne. you learned about yourself and developed just like your dreads, forced at first, but eventually really true... how true this is! Jah Bless you my knotted brother
Haha...wow, it seems as if we're all kinda thinking the same thing. Although I love my dreadies...I do kinda wish I had started them naturally as well. There's just something about natural dreads that are special. But my journey so far with my dreadies has been enjoyable, and they have grown so much over this past year and some that it would be a shame to give up on them now. Haha...I don't know why I'm making this analogy, but for some reason it seems appropriate: it's kinda like having a biological child and an adopted child. Biologically, it's your natural-born child. But if you adopt a child and make an active choice to take it into your life, do you love it any less than if it were your "natural" kid? Hmm...I was going somewhere with this...maybe someone can understand what I'm saying... But yeah, Electricbuddha, your dreads are beautiful and you seem like such a beautiful, free spirit. Just because you started them by your own hands doesn't make you or your hair any less beautiful. But it's your choice...good luck with the decision...
I think everyone for posting in this thread as I am sure Buddah will. I think I will keep mine, like my adopted child! Everyone has made such good points on this thread, it has started to ease my thoughts of starting over. But I can still see why someone would want to go natural!
Awwwww thank you all soo much for all your support. soo many good points.. I love the adopted child analogy, that’s beautiful, I Love all of you input... i know ill probably keep them, and continue to grow and learn and when the time comes like mama said, i can take that plunge.. maybe a few years down the road. and when i do start over then i can hold my locks in my hand and remember all of my experiences and growth through out that sector of my life and and move toward a new natty head, and new area of my life non the less thank you for helping me with this process of confusion. I'll keep em’lovely locks
YAY sorry for a while there i thought everyonewas gonna cut off your locks...and all yours are soo pretty...i hope mine grow up to be like yours :-D
